Please please please please help

[Pink_and_Sparkly]

Help me please please please, my boyfriend has just dumped me over the phone and i cannt see how i can ever ever get over this. He was my whole world, I love him more than life itself. I just cannot go on. I cannot go on. Please help me please please please

[melda]

Has he told you the reason why he has dumped you? You need to ask him to have a proper conversation with you so you can discuss it. But it is likely he wont do that, especially since he dumped you over the phone. Im not going to blab on about how he isnt worth it and you are better off without him, because it probably isnt true, at the moment anyway. Was it totally out of the blue, or has there been a few problems recently?

It must seem like there is no way to carry on and it may seem like you dont want to live without him, and you probably dont want to hear it now, but over time you will get over him and you will meet someone else. I know you may not want anyone else, you just want him. Time is a great healer and it may hurt for many months, but you have to try and stay strong. Please dont do anything that would hurt yourself.

Is there anyone you can call, like the samaritans or the local crisis team? They can probably give you better advice. Try the distraction techniques. Do something that you enjoy or something that will take your mind off things for a while. Is there someone you could ring up for a chat like a friend or a family member. You could also try writing in the rant/vent forum and get everything off your chest.

I dont know what else to suggest, but leave talking to him until tomorrow or the next day and then see if he will meet up with you to talk things through like adults. If not, you are going to have to rely on the people close to you to get you through.

Stay strong, if you need anything, PM me.

Take care.

[teenytineytori]

You can get through this. I truly know this feels like the end of the world. But if it is meant to be it will be. If not it will make the real thing so much sweeter.

Take some time for yourself. Sort out your emotions. Why is this hitting you so hard? What about your bf made the relationship great? What about it made it not so great? What has he done good/bad in the relationship? What have you done good/bad in the relationship? Was it a healthy relationship?

Sort these things out for yourself through talking, journaling, a counselor, ryl etc. And if you come to the conclusion that it was a healthy relationship for both of you and you want it back then try and get it back. If you come to the conclusion that it may not have been very healthy work on you so the next relationship will be healthy.

I am sorry you are hurting. (((hugs)) take care

[Revival]

I'm so sorry that you're feeling so terrible right now, the advice given is great and I cant really add to it, just wanted to let you know I read and care. I know we've not spoken but I do believe that you can get through this. please take care xxx

[GoodbyeMyLove]

This must feel terrible and heart-tearing for you, but what I'd advise you to do right now is to do anything you can to NOT think about it. You can vent, you can cry, you can talk to him, even try to get him back if you want, but now is not the time. Now it hurts too much.

You might not believe it, but you will feel better over time. It will take some time until you do and it will take even longer until you're completely fine with it, but the incredible pain you feel right now will go. All you can try to do now is to keep yourself occupied and busy doing things that won't remind you of him and your relationship.

Take care.
*hugs*

[brokenforever]

I just wanted to let you know that i have read and i do care hunni
Im sorry you are feeling like this *big hugs*
The advise that has been given is good - please keep posting and let us know what is going on

Vicky xxxx