Triggering (Substance Abuse) - My moving out, and the downwar spiral which followed.

[swordth]

I moved out of my parents house 6 months ago, to a new country, where I have no family, no experience in, and no prior friends (because there was a good university here).

Slowly over the last 6 months, I've become a heavy marijuana user, and am slowly moving towards alcoholism (Albeit, the marijuana use is probably better then the drinking. Also note, where I am marijuana is not an illegal substance). I've also taken up smoking.

The reason? Depression. I've yet to find anyone here I can relate to, or be friends with, even in university. I live in a small ~250 square foot apartment, have no close friends, no family, and sadly no hobbies (although I wish i did). I usually don't even go to class because I usually wake up and don't see the point in ever getting up again (hating the subjects i'm studying certainly doesn't help).

I spent my birthday and Christmas alone drunk, and will probably spend new years in the same way, but I just can't get myself out of this mess,

I dont know if anyone here can give me suggestions, but it would certainly help.

Thanks

[Littlelostlamb]

Hi there and welcome to RYL.

Is there any chance you can move your course to another uni which is closer to home. It sounds like you're very unhappy where you are so you need to take action. We can support you. No course is worth you feeling this unhappy, matey.

Can you go back home and study there instead?

*huge hugs*

[GoodbyeMyLove]

Hey, welcome to RYL!

Can you speak to anyone at your university about this? I moved away from everything I was ever familiar with to go to uni in a different country and I know that loads of universities offer special support for students from abroad, as it can be quite a tricky situation to be in. Have a look around, maybe there's something like that available for you.

If not, then I can only repeat that maybe you should look for a course closer to your home, as it seems that things are only getting so bad for you because you can't deal with or relate to all the new things and people around you. There's no point forcing yourself if it makes it this bad for you and I'm sure your parents would understand that as well.

*hugs*

[Popple]

Hi, welcome to ryl
Theres no thing more I can really say thats already been said
But if you really hate the subjects it might help to change the course and the university even. Its not worth it if its making you feel so bad.
Take care of yourself
xx

[Miss-Dramatic]

Hiya babe im sorry your going through such a riough time right now but ^ there all right.; You need to speak to sumone about how ur feeling or things will just get worse xoxoxoxox

yeah everyone is right... can you get out of there somehow and transfer? from what it sounds like you're not going to be able to pass your classes for long if you're getting into that much addiction and not going to class.. so even if switching is a pain or costs some, it'd be better than not being at any school, which will cost you way more in the long run (failed classes and trying to get accepted after failing at one university). i also think you'd feel even worse, and it sounds like you're biggest problem isn't uni in general but just the fact that you haven't fit in in the area you've moved to... you'd probably be quite successful somewhere else... are any of your close friends from before at different schools? maybe you could ask them how they're doing and if they're good maybe try to go to that one and move close to them? we're definitely here to support you, but usually, it's best to get support outside of the internet too cause you generally need that face to face contact... *hugs* and hope it works out. keep us posted!