There's some guy in my class who I sort of speak to, say hi to in the morning and that kind of stuff, but we're not friends and don't even have conversations, the most I ever say is "What lesson do I have now?"
So...I'd kind of guessed he like me, he always held the door for me even if he had to hold it for half an hour because I was so far away, he always said hi every time he say me, was always trying to follow me to lessons after registration and stared (scary, actually) at me when I was talking. I don't mean to sound shallow, but he's the geeky, quiet kind of person, and that's something I don't like. I like friends who are louder than me, otherwise there's not much conversation.
But, there is now way I would have expected this! And I know it's a bit evil for me to say, but it's sort of p*ssed me off.
I walked past him talking to his friend, didn't say hi or anything and was halfway up the corridor when he shouted Emma, so I turned round (as you do).
He was red, and looked like he was about to cry, and he said he had something he needed to tell me. My first thought was actually "Sh*t! Zoë or Lauren is dead!" (They're my 2 bestest friends)
Instead he said, "I love you." It makes me want to be physically sick. I don't like him one single bit that way, and I've found him annoying anyway. Add that to the fact that I don't believe in love, I believe more that it's just trust between two people, and trust has to grow in both people. I said nothing for about 5 second then just said "Okaaay." He then said, "Well there, I've told you now, so-" and ran (actually ran) away.
It's really annoying me now, but I think it was incredibly unfair of him to do and has put me in an awkward position. I act normally with all my male friends, give them hugs, flirt with some blah blah, but now I feel like he's just watching me all the time and I don't like being in this position. I know I shouldn’t really feel angry with him, but I do.
How do I nicely say that I have no interest in him whatsoever?
There's no reason you shouldn't feel annoyed.. He sounds a bit of a stalker, just say to him very politley; "I'm really sorry, but i'm not attracted to you."
On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.
Ow. This sounds painfully familiar from the perspective of a geeky, quiet boy.
I was in a similar position about 4 years ago. I didn't wind up telling the girl, I told my friend and he somehow let it slip that I liked her (which I didn't appreciate...) and it REALLY hurt me when I read a note that she had written about me and the other two boys in the class. She (and her group of girls) had written that Peter was "hawt", David was a "geek" and I was "psycho".
And that really, really hurt.
So, please be aware that this kid will probably be hurt unless you're very gentle with him? Otherwise he'll probably start being inclined towards bitterness and cynicism like myself :/
"When I was a little kid, my mother told me not to stare into the sun, so when I was six I did..."
Ah, bless him! I can understand how awkward [and a bit scared!] this must have made you feel, though. Look at it from his point of view - he obviously really likes you, it must have taken a lot of courage to go and tell you that he loved you and he probably didn't think how it might make you feel. It may have been unfair and annoying, but I'm sure he didn't realise!
Do you think you could get him on his own and just tell him that you're not interested? That way he won't be put down in front of his friends, and it's probably the nicest way to do it. That way, he will [hopefully!] stop following you and being overally weird.
Take care. xo
"When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around.”
Hehe. I think it's sweet too. He did have to build up a lot of courage to tell you that. Just tell him nicely that you are not interested in a relationship with him but you appreciate his kindness or something like that.
awww think of it as a good thing, his plucked up SO much courage to tell you that, regardless of who he is or whate he looks like, feel honoured! Not many people would do that! Lucky girly!!
Agreeing with above, just tell him you feel flattered but you dont wanna be with anyone?
haha im so sorry i find this funny...
but to be honest, if you knew the person who this was, everyone would find it funny...
emma i dont know if you actually need to tell him anything to be honest, because i dont think he really thinks he has a chance with you anyway,
and if you just don't say anything, i guess he'll get the point...
i dont know...i guess it depends if you think you want to talk to him...
and yeah xsezzx is right - you should feel honoured and lucky,
even if it is him...
if he was a great, good looking guy everything he did would be considered sweet and flattering, just because he is abit geeky and not your type is no reason tobe so harsh. Guy can not help crushing on you. take it as a compliment and just take him to one side and make sure he knows nothing will ever happen between the both of you
if he was a great, good looking guy everything he did would be considered sweet and flattering, just because he is abit geeky and not your type is no reason tobe so harsh. Guy can not help crushing on you. take it as a compliment and just take him to one side and make sure he knows nothing will ever happen between the both of you
I'm not sure...I'd be freaked out if it was a great, good looking guy. I'd be freaked out if it was a guy I liked.
I get freaked out the moment the word love is mentioned.
I don't really want to talk to him, because I just don't like tlaking to people, but he's trying to follow me everywhere again so I'm going to have to tell him nothing will ever happen. I'm not in school until Friday so I'll let you know then.
