Triggering (SI) - Ageism and Self-Harm?

[ravynsoul]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tokoloshe

! Perhaps they thought it hadn't occurred to you?!

Ladies and gentlement, we have the answer!

• wear bright clothes, then...
• just stop!

Easy when you think of it...

What about typing.. if we use bright colours and then stop; do you think that will help in the short-term

Seriously though, we should publish this secret!! we'd be famous!! Who knew that clothes had so much power...

[Sigma]

Quote:

Originally Posted by ravynsoul

What about typing.. if we use bright colours and then stop; do you think that will help in the short-term

lol.. certainly worth a try!

[IcarusDrowning]

Indeed...it'll be revolutionary.

[1ofmany]

This is as bright as I go.
I always found it wierd when i was in school and people always tried to make it look as if they had been cutting themselves and I always woundered why they did (not actualy harming but making it look as tho they had). Then I had a girlfriend who i found out was harming and when i asked her why she wouldnt tell me. By this time i was paranoid about most things so this didnt help me so I broke up with her. I found out that she had cut my initials into her arm, i was horified! Then a few weeks later she went out with my friend and stopped harming and lived happaly ever after so far...

Now here we are a few years later and i am the one harming...out of the so called "passing age".

Ok looking back on this i dont know weather i should be posting it but i thought it might make for an interesting read.
let me know if you think i should deleat it.

[Seraphsigh]

No need to delete!
That's messed up. But then again, I still believe that everyone who SI's, for whatever reason, needs help. Maybe she found what she needed. We who still do it have not found what we need, which is obviously a good way to cope with the feelings that we're having, and the life circumstances that have held us back.

I'm still really ashamed to tell people who are close to me. Haven't told my family and probably never will...for precisely the reason that is the subject of this thread.

[Sigma]

well done Monarkh for bringing us back to the thread - and sorry guys, I took us off track a bit...

I've found that the SH has changed as I've got older - I definitely do it a lot less and can have long periods where I don't at all... I think because I have learnt other coping mechanisms, but then when things get really bad and those newer coping mechanisms aren't working I go back to the old habits. Whenever that happens I feel as if I'm a complete failure, but the rational side of me recognises that it's just a step back, it doesn't undo everything I've acheived in the meantime

[Mogsy]

Just wanted to add - I have ocd and therefore my SH has become one of my rituals as well as an impulsive thing in response to upsetting things or stress - seems a paradox maybe... I jsut dont know how to ever break out of the circle when it has become part of every day- any one any ideas?

[BoundNoMore]

Mogsy - do you have a therapist? They may be able to help you.