being bullied at work

[~SuNsHiNe~]

ok so a couple of months ago I got a promotion and moved to another site within my work. Whilst I enjoy the new job, two of the woman I am now responsible for supervising have responded really badly to me and this new position and have been bullying me throughout this time. I have taken it higher and taken steps to try to resolve things but today it all escalated and i got to the point where I left work to go for a walk and didnt go back til my boss came and found me and had a chat and I eventually pulled myself together enough to go back. anyway my boss reckons shes taking steps to sort things out but ive gotten to the point where I dont think I can go back there, I dont want to give them the satisfaction of tossing it in but I dont think i can go back there under those conditions I cant do it anymore and dont know what to do...any help would be much appreciated ta guys

[Tig]

I am sorry to hear that you've been treated in this way and put in such a difficult situation. It's understandable why you don't want to go back, I don't think I would if I was being constantly bullied. I agree though, you don't want to give up (and shouldn't have to) something that was positive for you because of these cruel women.
Could you speak to your boss about possibly getting some leave? I don't know if that would be an option but if perhaps, if you really can't cope with going back but don't want to quit it would be a halfway sort of thing and hopefully by the time you come back these two bullies will have pulled themselves together. Also, even if they haven't stopped behaving in that way, at least you will have had a chance to get some of your energy levels back.
Did you speak to your boss about the fact it isn't stopping, despite her attempts? Could you ask your boss what steps can be taken next? Also, perhaps tell your boss how desperate you are feeling and how you feel unable to work with them. If the worst comes to the worst, could you be transferred somewhere else? I think it's totally unfair and unacceptable that you should have to do that because of the bullies but if it comes to it, would it be possible?

Thinking of you and if you need anything, feel free to PM me.

Lotti x

[green.eyes]

if you feel up to it challenge them, tell them they have no right to make you feel this way and that if it continues you will take it to the highest levels.
i think you're right about not letting them drive you out of work. you earned your promotion so dont let them take it away from you. can you transfer to any site/area but keep your position? has your boss told them directly to stop it?
if its all verbal stuff you could even tape record them to show your boss the kind of things and he could present them with it as evidence of their bullying.
i dunno, i hope it gets resolved
take care

[popcorn]

Hey,
sorry that you're having to deal with this. People can be such jerks. It sounds like you have done the right things about reporting-- 'taking it higher' you said, and I don't know anything about the structure of your workplace, but I think that making sure you do everything you can to fight back in an official, legal way will help you. Even if you've already told someone about the behavior, keep coming with reports and written statements-- you may need to 'make noise' in order to get help. If you like your job and are succeeding in it, as it seems you are, you don't want to let this crap get in the way.

Be clear and assertive about what you need for it to be a safe work environment for you. Would talking it out together with a mediator (some companies have them) help? In a work environment (and really just generally in life, I think) people don't have to be your friend, but they should treat you professionally-- civilly and politely.

Try to be extra nice to yourself, because this is rough. And see if you can find some allies at work-- maybe your boss, maybe another co-worker who isn't a twit. And of course you can try to ignore what they're doing, and focus on the job-- but while doing that, I wouldn't let up on taking official steps against them.

Let us know how it's going!

[~SuNsHiNe~]

thanks for ur replies, im still struggling with it, the two women who are causing the problems have been spoken to formally and have verbally agreed to cooperate and try to resolve things harmoniously ra ra ra...which i will believe when i see it! i just dont want to go back there, but i have to go back tomorrow and im so so tired of it all, im really not coping atm