Isn't there an example letter somewhere on RYL about how to tell your parents? I'll see if I can find it.
I told my mum straightaway, after the first time I self harmed. I just said that I had scratched myself and showed her the mark. She didn't make a big deal out of it, just asked me why I had done it and said I shouldn't do it again.
I then didn't tell anyone for a year or so and slowly my mum suspected I was self harming. I can't remember if we talked about it then, or not.
But she knows everything now. She did go through a phase of hiding all the razors, but she thought she was helping. A professional told her that would do more harm than good so she didnt hide them again. She never inspected my body for cuts, though. She never asked to see them.
Then my parents made me see a counsellor. I didn't like it, so I stopped going. I had no more real input until I started ending up in A&E every couple of days and decided by myself I needed to see a psychiatrist.
Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back, everything is different…
you once called your brain a hard drive, well say hello to the virus.
My parents found out nearly two years ago, because i became very withdrawn, teachers were concerned etc. They spoke to me, I yelled back. Nothing has been mentioned since
I swear they think that everytihing is hunky-dory now, but to be honest it is worse. Okay since then, I have come out as being a lesbian and again not much has been said,
Well that's my story,
but like it has already been said,
everyone will react differently including your parents.
Let us know how things go,
My PM box is always oipen =]
xx
When I started SI'ing, I was at boarding school. When the school health center found out, they made me tell my parents. That was hard, because my parents had to drive three and a half hours, come pick me up, and then drive back. Awkward car ride but things turned out okay eventually. I have stopped and started two other times and been in situations in which I had to tell them both times. The second time, it was a really bad situation and my parents reacted really extremely, taking everything sharp out of the house. They were really unsupportive. However, most recently (about two months ago) I told them I had started again and they were really calm and helpful about it. Basically, in this long tale of my life, I'm trying to say that it definitely varies from situation to situation, even within a single person. It is an extremely difficult decision to make to tell them. Honestly, if I'd been in situations in which I hadn't been forced to admit it to my parents, I might not have.
my mum guessed cuz she saw my arm, and talked ot me last week..
and then she told my dad, who asked me about it last night... awkward car ride much
but they havnt brought it up since and i'm just not comfertable bringin it up myself.
yea... they know.. but.... havnt said anything..
I havwnt told my mum and dad because my mum is the reasom i do it. Ive told my best mate and she was shocked. She think its somthing embrassing or w.e
I dont talk to anyone about it now. Just somthing i do
I havwnt told my mum and dad because my mum is the reasom i do it. Ive told my best mate and she was shocked. She think its somthing embrassing or w.e
I dont talk to anyone about it now. Just somthing i do
I'm sad to hear that. I think it's hard to understand if you haven't been there yourself.
My dad knows but not my mum, because my mum is depressed and would take it upon herself.
my dad found out because I was washing my hands after painting my baby brother's nursery and he saw the scars on my arms... i always wear long sleeve shirts so they were hid from him. I had been cutting for nearly 8 years before he saw them... he sat me down and talked to me, even had his minister friend talk to me... but it didnt help becasue there is so much going on in my head and so much anger and pain built up. i just told him I would try... he did not yell at me like i thought he would... he was scared and I understand that... most parents would be
I didn't tell my parents, mum found out, however once she knew and I explained it to her, after an initial few months of misunderstanding and stress, she came round to understanding it, and she has been one of the best support figures I've had throughout this difficult time.
Maybe try writing them a letter if face to face is too hard?
Katy.
'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'
['There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']
'We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell.’ – Oscar Wilde
‘It’s hard to dance with the devil on your back.’ Sydney Carter
Hello! I'm new to posting, too! :) But welcome!
My parents know about my self-injury, but it was not by my choice. I was caught in school (several times) and by law, the school is forced to tell parents that their children are in danger to themselves. Or at least that's how it was told to me. In the end, it ended up being inevitable.
I agree with the letter idea. If you think it could help, try to let them know. Good luck!
One thing is sure-
we have to do something.
We have to do the best
we know at the moment.
If it doesn't turn out right,
we can modify it as we go along.
-FDR
Hey sweetie welcome
I think its real brave of you to want to tell your parents.
I was kinda forced into telling my parents by my mates step-dad cos he found out when i ran away.
They were told separately.
My mum she just cried.
And my dad was just like whatever thats nothing so he was kinda in denial.
I wouldn't have ever told them if it hadn't been for him and i still wish they didn't know.
Telling them on a letter might be an idea of how to tell them that way you can express yourself more and they have some time to take it in.
Good luck if you go ahead and tell them.
Amy x
'Cause I'll always remember you the same.
Oh eyes like wild flowers within demons of change ♥
