is showin my arms (which are full of scars) a good and ok idea?
hello. i just want to know what other people thought i should do about this.
in my school it gets really really hot but i neve take my jumper off because i am scared of what people will say about my scars. i no it shouldnt bother me but it is very scary espeshlly with the people in my year. i get bullyed already and i dont want them to have more reasons to do it. my friend told me there has been rumors goin around about me and s/h but she didnt believe them. i just want to take off my jumper like i could before and not worry.
is it ok to do that or will it just upset people? i really dont want to make someone feel unconfutable
thanks
jessi
xxxx
I just want somebody to hold me and tell me everything will be ok, even if it is a lie.
its up to you really, if you feel warm and are comfortable with others possibly seeing ur arms then do it
i wear short sleeves at college all the time.. however most of my scars are pretty old.. if you think you can cope with people asking about them (which probably wont happen that often) then go for it
Think of it this way,
If your scars actually came from a cat, or a porcupine or any of the other excuses would you be scared to show them?
The scars are apart of you and if you are omfortable with them then show them! Your health isn't worth risking.
It's the children the world almost breaks that grow up to save it.
-Frank Warren
well this is really up to you.. me and my friend wear short sleeves most of the time even when we have new cuts.. nobody really says something.. this is only rarley but most people are just concerned that's all.
I wouldn't show new cuts, I don't agree with that, but scars if you want to I would show them, but remember teachers are gonna see as well as students, I dunno if that's an issue for you or not but just something to bear in mind,
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yeh, i agree it's all about what you're comfortable with. i have some really old scars that everyone has just got used to me showing, but the first time i ever took off my jumper in school i was so sure everyone would be staring at me.
like every one said its what you feel comfortable with... i stop wearing long sleeves ... every once in a while i get people who notice but not very often...
gets easier longer you go with out covering them... but you have moments
Never give up...when you slip ... just get back up and try again... Never give up
Do your parents know or have they seen your scars?
Somebody mentioned above about if you don't cover up then the Teacher might see. The likely result of this is that your parents will end up being contacted, as I believe by law if you are under a certain age then they are required to?
If this is the case then you will probably be offered councilling and support through the school.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to scare you off the idea of not covering up, just that this is something you may have to deal with, which, if your parents don't know about already, could be a difficult situation for you to be in.
At the end of the day though, as everyone else has said, if you feel comfortable showing scars (I don't agree that showing new cuts is a good idea under any circumstances really) then as much as it might scare you, you shouldn't be put off and hide them just because you are worried what others may think.
I went through school having to have mine on show due to where they were and while it was difficult at first, it did get easier and apart from a couple of people, no-one ever really questioned me over it.
I completely understand how your feeling Jessi, I'm in this situation right now and I think if you want to take your jumper off just do it...
You'll be surprised how few people actually notice...and how even fewer people say anything...
Last school year i didnt have my school jumper with me cos i'd ran off but i had a hoodie which i got told i wasn't allowed to wear in school so i had to take it off and i had fresh cuts and had blood all over my arm and not one person said anything. You will be really conscious of it at first but i'm sure it will get easier.
Amy x
'Cause I'll always remember you the same.
Oh eyes like wild flowers within demons of change ♥
All I'm going to say is it is up to you. It is something you have to be comfortable with so first you have to be comfortable with you seeing your own scars so if you're not maybe where short sleeves/ roll your sleeves up when you're by yourself just to get used to them. Then, once you're feeling ready and feeling confident about yourself then maybe you can but the first time you may find it more useful to do it whilst your out in town or somewhere that very few/ no people who know you are likely to see. Then you will become more confident and used to that and then start with it at school when YOU feel comfortable about it. Don't rush it and if you suddenly feel your confidence go or you feel self-conscious with them they it may be better for you to cover them up again as it may take time for you to get used to it and there is nothing to be ashamed about having to cover them up again; it is better than not covering them up if you become self-conscious and then you ending up getting really anxious/ stressed/ triggered.
I think you must have great courage to think of doing this and I admire you for that, it isn't something I think I'd be able to do, I hate people seeing my scars so the idea of going out in public with them on show terrifies me so if you are able to do it that shows real strength which you should be proud of.
