Triggering (SI) - is showing my scars wrong??

[Tig]

This has been really interesting to read and given me more confidence about showing my own scars. I have tried before but don't have the confidence/courage so far, so well done to you all <3
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[thespianicism]

If you're comfortable with it, I think it's great that you can let your scars show, especially if it signifies moving on for you.

And welcome!

[e.taylor]

just really echoing what everyone else has said in that if you feel comforatble with them on show then go for it.
i understand why people may not agree with showing newer ones, coz its different. with scars its like "yeah i've been through that" whereas fresh ones may make people feel as though they should be doing something, as its obvious you're still not in a good place...and yeah...if you get what i mean?
the only reason i dont show mine is because i am not comfrotable with questions and people looking and stuff, but i hope to get to a point where i can just stop caring.it wll make life alot easier, and i personally believe it is a milstone in the road to recovery.

oh and welcome to RYL :)

pm me anytime you want

take care

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[Chaos]

i haven't cut for quite a long time now. But it took me about a year before i had the guts too show my scars in public. It was after i finally told my family that i felt like i had no more chains too break, and i decided too try and show my arms.

Now i wear short sleeve shirts too work. I recently started in a new job, and thankfully nobody has said anything. I've come too the conclusion that i shouldn't be ashamed of one of my experiences. Besides, if mine are on display maybe somebody else might not feel so lonely who is hiding theirs.

[e.taylor]

oh and i would just like to add that on the very rare occasions i have come across other people with obvious SI scars on show it makes me feel so much better, and makes me feel less alone, so thats another reason i have respect for people who have to guts to not hide :)

[Freya]

You don't have to feel embarrassed, or make excuses; these scars say so much, that you couldn't possibly put in words.
They say you went through a hard time and that is how you chose to cope (taking it out on yourself instead of others), and you came out the other end.
It tells people that you are strong, but you also need some TLC sometimes, you need them to be understanding sometimes.
It shows those who may have put u down, the real extent of their words.

And a lot more, that is more specific to you. It's great to hear that you're comfortable with them- and that's the key. As others said, if you are comfortable, then show them.
I show mine, although sometimes, regrettably, i'm ashamed and I hide them.
For me, showing them was finally accepting that I needed support, (as I still SH :[), and it was accepting that I actually did it, that it was a problem. It was letting go of the secret i'd kept for four years. It felt SO good. You have no reason to hide them; you have nothing to hide.
As I said at the start, you don't need to be ashamed! Others can pass judgement, and let them, because people are different, they'll miss out for not realising that.

XFreyaah.X