Baby Support Thread

[Mandimoo]

chloe didnt flinch with hers, - put socks on, improves circulation and makes it a lot faster.
she did scream in hosp where they had to milk her heel to fill a small tube with blood
mand x

[hurtnpain]

hope the heal prick wasnt too bad

[Mandimoo]

yeah, hope all went ok, mand x

[Raven]

glad the carrier turned up and i hope the heel prick went ok. freyja wasnt too bothered with hers, she was asleep when it was done she kind of screwed up her face and then drifted off again.
its the jags that upset me :(

[Raven]

oh btw laura, thanks it is hard breastfeeding sometimes but i do enjoy the closeness and bond it has created. she gets a bottle at night but still mummy gives it to her. going to have to incorporate her father into that one so he has some bonding time too as its harder for the men sometimes.

[Raven]

what did she say to him?? good on ya for making her apologise i bet she felt this big *makes a small space between finger and thumb*

glad the tear is healing! you are brave, i wouldnt let them near me!!! they kept asking to have a look at my grazing and i was like er, no its ****ing agony and im still bleeding so beat it!!!

[Ragdoll]

Haha Stace that's what I'm always like with doctors etc!

[Raven]

lol you gotta be firm with them ragdoll!
im so glad berni because i had an awful time with my grazing. i couldnt pee normally for 2 weeks, i had to get in the shower every time, turn it to cold and spray the water on my bits before i could go else i was literally screaming in agony. the first night i was home, i hadnt figured the shower thing out and i went to bed still needing a pee as i had tried to go, found out it was like pissing razor blades, tried frozen peas and stuff but couldnt do it. my body just packed in and wouldnt let the pee out. horrible.

[PaperClip]

^^^^^^^^^
ahhh - im getting scared now!

[Raven]

paperclip im sorry i didnt mean to scare you - that was just my experience with grazing - as you can see berni had tearing and is coping brilliant with it, no pain at all.
lol i had that too!! back to pre pregnancy weight in a couple of weeks...i was out with freyja 9 days after giving birth and someone couldnt believe i had just had her 9 days previously. it was actually because i was having serious problems finding time to eat as jamie was back at work a couple of days after i had her.
I REEEEEALLY miss my bump berni....i feel yer pain babe.

[Raven]

its up to you ultimately darlin, but the way i look at it - if chris' mum wasnt around you would cope, you always find a way. if jamie and i were still living with my mum i bet i would have said the same thing - how would we cope without her. but with us, jamie was back to work the day after i came back from the hospital and i managed because i had to even though i was terrified. i know you are worried about dropping him, but you have the baby carrier to help you now...just get him in and out of it by the bed...stay on the couch as much as you can....set up a wee table next to the couch with food and drink on it, tv remote etc. thats what i did when freyja was cluster feeding, i just camped on my couch and kept everything nearby.
its natural to feel anxious...its the joys of parenthood. it happens even if its not your first. but its really up to you...you can also request help at home from health visitor etc, they would be able to put you in touch with someone either nhs or charitable organisation.
or would his mum be able to come help you at your house? i think it would be a real shame to give up the house you have waited so long for it. what do you think? wish i could come help, if you lived nearby i would have come to stay with freyja.

[Raven]

i dont want you to think i am forcing my thinking upon you doll, dont do anything that you dont want to. its ultimately up to you babe. do what you feel is right.

[bigmouth]

i think if all three of you are happy with the set up at Chris' mum's then you should stay there. In other countries people rely much more on their mother's when they have a new baby and I think it makes sense.

My mum came and stayed for the 1st two weeks when I had Adela, I know we would have coped without her, but having her here made us all feel better. Now that she's gone, I miss the company when Ernie worked more than the practical help really.

Staying where you are would let you save some money wouldn't it? After a while you might havethe possibility of renting a better place, because poor housing is stressful enough even without the stress of a newborn

[charcoal feathers]

Do what you feel is best for the 3 of you Berni.
But you've also got to think, how you're going to feel in a year or so time, because as you know it can take a long time to get a house.
Although you may think you wouldn't of got by this week without Chris mum, you would have. It's just because she is there that you've relayed on her, if she wasn't you would have done it by yourselves.

[Le Almighty Kitten]

Berni, what phone plan do you have on your landline? I ask because whilst we my parents lived minutes away from us, you wouldn't believe the number of times i would call her asking something and our unlimited call plan came in very useful.

Don't forget, you'd very much be able to apply for a Homestart volunteer too. You do learn to adapt.

That said, you need to do what's best for the three of you. I was glad to have my mother around but good god, i'm quite happy to kick her out the house again at times.

Having said all that though, damp is not good in a babies room and can cause problems depending on how severe it is.

Ultimately, you need to do what's best for you; if you're living with his Mum, then you'll need to inform DWP etc as it's a change in circs; it's important to think of the future, say it takes three years for another house to come up, can you all still stay at your mother in laws?

Laura? Can't remember names this morning! I had a tear but no pee problems at all, that was probably one the few good things, haha.

Anna, hope you and Adela are doing well :)

[Raven]

i can only reiterate what others have said berni, you have to do what is best for you. have you spoken to chris about it? maybe you could all sit down and have a discussion.
sorry hun i have to run freyja is awake from her nap

Berni - i feel for you.
I may not be in the same situation as you but i often think what it would be like with a baby and how anxious i'd be about being on my own.
But you have to remember your hormones are all out of whack at the moment, and your emotions are running wild. To me it seems like you're lacking confidence in your parenting, and you know what? I think you're doing a fabulous job.
First time mums are always anxious, especially when it comes to sleep deprivation.

How do you feel about taking the house, but moving in gradually? Painting the rooms..moving furniture in..etc. But still stay at Chris' mums place until you feel Kyle is in more of a settled routine.
From looking after my niece (who will be 4 next year *Trys not to cry! lol*) as a newborn, i can only imagine how you're feeling emotion wise. I felt exhausted just looking after her through the day on occasion!
But within weeks, once she settled into a routine - god there was a HUGE difference.

I think you need to talk to your midwife/health visitor about how you're feeling if you still feel down in the dumps in a week or two's time. It's always best to knock PND on the head as soon as you show signs of it, but it's difficult to know if it is PND or just your hormones settling down. But as you have past problems it's always best to keep an eye on things.

I think as well in your post (on page 63) you did mention Kyle was picking up on you feeling anxious - i was going to mention this when you were speaking on here about settling him, but i didn't want to speak out of turn or anything. Babies are so sensitive to emotions it's insane. That's why i looked after Kaleigh on occasion because Sam would get herself in a state and would find it rubbed off on Kaleigh. It's by no means your fault! But i think once Kyle settles down a bit more into a routine, and you (both emotionally & physically) settle down, everything else will slip into place.

Honestly - feeling scared and anxious about moving into your own place is a completely natural feeling. But you need more confidence in yourself hunny, because you're a wonderful mother (as is Chris a wonderful father). And don't let anyone tell you any differently ok?

I know we haven't spoken much but i'd still consider you a friend, and i'd hate for you to get yourself upset about moving out. I just want to try and put your mind at rest that whatever the outcome - you will be OK.
*hugs to you and Kyle*

And Stace - you're an inspiration to all in regards to breastfeeding. I've often said i'd be heartbroken if i couldn't breastfeed, so i'll be coming to you for tips! :P <3

Hope the rest of you are doing well
love to all :)
xxxxxxxxx

[Raven]

thank you it is hard breastfeeding, i can completely understand why a lot of women dont manage it. there has been times when i thought to myself i cant do this anymore, but i have ploughed on. there is an element of convenience to it as well, as i dont have to faff around with bottles for every feed. she gets her bottle at night though and she does enjoy that too, just about takes it off me half the time lol.
hope you are doing well hun

[Raven]

sounds like you guys have kind of come to a decision then berni? it doesnt sound like you two will be moving into the new house! do what your heart tells you to do...it sounds like its telling you to stay put. just be aware, as others have said, that you may be waiting a while for a place. but on the same token, it may be difficult to get out of a place that you hate once you are in it. i have been in that position myself and its horrible. i am still looking for a place too, waiting for something in a half decent area, the size we need.
it sounds like yvonne is a great help and you would both feel happier and more secure where you are.

[Mandimoo]

hey...eugh am feeling ill. just getting over the flu, have been in bed for a few days. matt is irritating me, he keeps moaning when i ask him at night to do a feed - i need sleep, or i wont get better. chloe has caught it too, she is coughing and sneezing yuck everywhere, poor doll.

but she's 5months today.

boots do weaning containers - like really small babysized tupperware, they clip together to make a tray for freezing, but are perfect to take out with you they look good. also these ashton and parsons powders - they're good - sorted her bowels right out, made her breath smell funny... but she still needs bonjela and calpol too. she's going thru a tube bonjela every 2 weeks... i'm sure the tooth fairies are stealing it! mand x