Or even caprees, ugh...I work around animals so I wear jeans most of the time anyway (safety), but its been over 100 degrees here and I have friends askibf 'why are you wearing pants?'. I haven't worn shorts in years, even before I started to SH (my senior year of high school) I only had caprees, but that was because I was insecure about my weight. I think I could handle shorts now, but I can't because of my SH. I can't even do the capree thing because I started to SH on my lower leg.
I know they don't mean to make me feel uncomfortable or to be rude, but it makes me feel strange, like I stand out. I should wear shorts, everyone does, but I can't and I won't. And this is only a petty side note, but what kind of guy wants a girl who never shows skin?
You will find that having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true-Spock
I'd rather have a goddam horse. A horse is at least human, for God's sake. ~J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
If you have scars, would using camoflauge make up help you or wearing opaque tights? I don't know what you can do with fresh wounds except I guess put a dressing on it - but this is obviously only going to work if you only self harm in one area.
As for the side note, I don't think guys will feel like that. They are interested in you and your personality mostly. Not how much skin you will or won't show.
i know you wont agree but i am proud of my scars i think they show what i have been through in my life and tell a kinda story, every time i look at them it reminds me how far i have come and i am now happy to wear shorts and my scars show up x
to freedom fails: This might sound weird, but I don't know if I am ashamed of my scars or not. I think the biggest reason I hide them is to a)spare my family (especially my mother) because seeing the scars is painful for them b) professional. In school and interviews I don't want them to be an influence and c) It just too hard to discuss... I wish I could just ignore it all and be more confident with myself and my scars as you are. I don't disagree, I see where you are coming from, but I am not in that place yet
To Tig: I never really thought of using make up. I can be very lazy lol, I suppose its looking into as long as it doesn't sweat off... It is something to consider, thank you
I think I just needed a vent, its so frustrating sometimes (even though its such a little, insignificant thing)
You will find that having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true-Spock
I'd rather have a goddam horse. A horse is at least human, for God's sake. ~J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
It's been pretty hot here too. And yeah, I've been wearing jeans to cover up. A bit hot, but hopefully the temperature should be going down in about a month.
Oh yeah, if you're worried about attention from guys, it should still be doable without shorts.
I used to be like this...I've just now started wearing shorts again. I only wear guys shorts (shorts that go down to my knees), and I just waited until the scars faded enough that they weren't too noticeable.
How do you deal with people who ask why you wear pants? Well...I don't know if it's the best approach, but I would respond with, "Uh...because I do."—with an attitude implying that their question was none of their business and a bit moronic. That gets them to stop.
And honestly, I think girls who show less skin are more attractive...though I may be the odd one in that, I don't know. But if you're really concerned, I guess you could wear lower cut tops and nicely fitted jeans.
I'm not really concerned about attracting guys....I just had spent the day with 3 friends (two of which are a couple) and I couldn't help seeing all the difference between her and me. She is very modest with her clothes as well, but still.....idk. I wouldn't want to be with someone who only cares about my body anyway
I think I was just frustrated because I felt so....odd. I can't relaxe and enjoy myself like my friends can. They dress how they want, go swimming, I don't know...its like they can be carefree and happy and I feel like I can't. I feel inferior...
You will find that having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true-Spock
I'd rather have a goddam horse. A horse is at least human, for God's sake. ~J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
After a while I started wearing longer shorts in my house, and now that my scars have faded to white (except for the ones hidden by the shorts, those scars are a bit darker still) I jsut wear short shorts around my house, and skirts that cover at least most of my thigh or longer shorts outside. My friends know about my issues and so my close ones have seem most of my scars, simply because I get careless or don't bother hiding the old scars from them. I've gotten pretty comfortable around them.
Maybe if you have a friend like that you can work on getting comfortable showing some of your lower leg around them until you feel you can do it in public (just not around people you're scared it might hurt, like your mother, at least for a while)
My goal is to be able to go back to short shorts in public, which means I still have yet to go, but maybe we can work together on this? Any of us who want to.
