I feel like i'm letting her down

Piglet · 02-05-2009, 11:35 PM

I'm trying so hard to support a friend who has depression. She has been so good in helping me recognise and get help for my depression and SH and I want to be doing the same for her. So far we've had a good system of looking after each other but now i'm really starting to struggle with my depression and i feel like i'm letting her down.
She has been telling me about how she had a really bad day and I want to support her but I'm finding looking after myself difficult and am struggling to find things to say to her.
I'm not sure what the point of this post is, just feel the need to vent.

x-dying-inside-x · 02-05-2009, 11:52 PM

hunny this may sound horrible but you have to put yourself first.
You can still be there for your friend but you should tell her how you are struggling atm.
if you wanna talk im always here.
xxx

Horizon · 02-05-2009, 11:54 PM

While I think it's great you want to support your friend, you have to look after yourself before you can truly support anyone else. Maybe just let her know that you still want to support her, but at the moment you don't feel like you are capable? I'm sure she will understand.

Second Chance · 03-05-2009, 12:12 AM

You can't help her if you're not ok. I think you should focus on yourself a little bit and not worry too much about her. You'll be there for her when you can. Maybe you can tell her how you feel and let her know that you have to sort yourself out? And also, you shouldn't feel like you have to come up with really good advices. You're not her therapist, you're her friend. The best thing you can do is support her when you can. Hope everything turns out ok.