... For valentine's day. I'm so annoyed with him. He's going down kent to see his mate, which is fair enough, why does it have to be valentines day though?
It sounds really pathetic that I'm annoyed over something so petty, but I was really looking forward to spending time with Ben. I see him nearly every week (he lives near Rushden) cause he comes down Kettering for training. But I hate the fact that he's leaving me on valentines day. I'm going to be hearing how amazing valentines day was from all my mates, and I can't even say that I had a great time. Because I'd be lying.
I'm going to see him on our one month 'anniversary' (big whoop) that will just be for a few hours, then I'm not going to see him for two weeks or something.
Also, without starting a new thread. Whenever I see him, and we're together, alone, he always tells me how much he loves me. But then we go out & whenever I say 'I love you' it's a case of 'oh, cheers' I hate it when he does this. Is he ashamed of me?
Does anyone else have this problem, or am I being pathetic?
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Yeah, I know. But like, valentines day, will probably be the only time we'll get to spend like just us two. Usually my parents or little brother are walking around the house.
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Yaz, its annoying as HELL and you more than likely wanna slap him but me and my fella decided to do valentines day a few weeks later, its not as expensive for a start.
C'mon, do you really need some over priced "holiday" to know how much he loves you? I know its the principle of the matter, but it happens with me all the time.
Just let him know how upset/angry you are, but tell him you'd still like to celebrate your relationship when you next see him.
I'm going through the same thing, but my partner is ruining our weekends together, and tbh, thats the only time we get to actually chill and enjoy each others company.
Just talk to him love, I know how it is to be abandoned by your bloke for his mates.
Demand he makes it up to you by spoiling you rotten on another day. Then when your mates are all complaining about the mundane things they've been doing you can tell them of your super romantic doings and make them sick with envy, plus it'll look better because your man didn't use some pre set holiday as a prompt to be romantic. You can leave out the part that it's payback!
As for him not saying he loves you in public, I doubt he's embarrassed of you at all, it's just that some people are hunky dory at showing and communicating their feelings when out and about and others aren't. He just needs time to adjust and get comfortable saying it around others. At the end of the day the real importance is that he feels so strongly for you, just give him time he'll come around to it.
Play the game out
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Valentines day is just a day. You should be able to show each other your feelings without having to wait for one commercial holiday.
You said you see him every week, how often does he see his friend?
Also, as said above, some people just arent happy about lovey dovey-ness out in public.
i wouldnt bust his balls about it to be honest. and i think maybe the more understanding you are about it, the more likely he is to want to make it up to you.
my bf never used to tell me he loved me in public because he didnt like it, now he does....not sure what changed there!Probably because I stopped saying it lol.
Plus....youve been together a month, maybe he didnt think he would have to make a big deal about things? Ask him how come youre not doing anything, but whatever you do dont jump off at the deep end because he goes to see his friends. My bf was away for new years to see his friend and I let it drive a wedge between us for weeks, but its not worth it.
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
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