Triggering (SI) - MY FRIEND SUCKS

misfitscot1980 · 20-01-2009, 04:50 AM

Ok So I Was Just Talking To My Buddy And He Knows I Am Trying To Stop Cutting And He Starts Telling Me About This Knife He Just Got And It Is Weird But One Of My Triggers Is A Nice Blade Anyway I Asked Him To Stop Talking About Knives And He Kept Talking About Them So I Asked Him Again And He Was Like Cutting Is For Losers And That Made Me Want To Go Get My Knife Or Anything Sharp And Start Cutting I Have Tried To Explain To Him Why I Do It But He Just Starts Laughing **** Him **** It All I Just Think I Am Going To End Up Cutting Do You Guys Think I Should Just Tell Him To Leave Me Alone For Now

I Just Hate The Put Downs From Him About My Cutting He Is One Of Few People Who Know I Cut Is It Worth Having Him As A Freind Any More I Don't Know

brom100 · 20-01-2009, 11:39 AM

Hun, this doesn't sound like a very nice buddy. No-one should want to deliberately trigger you. Let me ask you a question, if this guy wasn't a buddy, but a stranger, how would you react?

I know if it was me, I would walk away. You need to focus on keeping yourself safe. This is just my opinion and you have to do what is right for you. I'm sending you a hug anyway.

ZDrache · 20-01-2009, 11:47 AM

That's just rude and immature. If he's going to be like that, he's not worth your time.

crazykat · 20-01-2009, 11:50 AM

Sweetheart to be honest I don't think he is a friend. If he was he wouldn't deliberately trigger you like that, he would try and support you through this instead. You don't need people in your life that are gonna tear you down, you are worth so much more than that. However at the end of the day this is just my opinion only you can make that decision to walk away from him or not, but think about if you really want someone that makes you feel like crap in your life. I am here if you need to talk ok hunny. Take care
Kat xxx

misfitscot1980 · 20-01-2009, 10:16 PM

Thanks for the feed back. I think I know what has to be done and I am going to tell him next time he calls to go hangout that i can't anymore. I just hate telling people that i can't hang with them but this is what I need to do right.
My therapist thinks so I am nervous about telling him we can't hang out any more but I do need to do this I hope he gets the point

ravynsoul · 21-01-2009, 01:40 AM

I think you are making a wise decision; you need to do what is best for you; and this person does not sound like a real friend. I hope things go ok.

Take care of yourself.

*offers hugs*

crazykat · 22-01-2009, 01:45 AM

I think you are doing the right thing, when you do tell him you can't hang out anymore also explain your reasons behind it to him. Take care
Kat xxx

misfitscot1980 · 22-01-2009, 08:45 PM

Just wanted to let you guys know that.I talked to him a couple hours ago and told him that I can't hangout with him anymore. HE was kind of pissed it took talking to him for a hour before he understood that i was serious about it. I told him at this point in my life I don't need someone around who just think this is all a joke and if he can't understand that this is a everyday struggle for me not to harm myself then he probly never will.
thank you all for helping me to figure this out
MAX RESPECT
Scott

airwolf282 · 23-01-2009, 01:41 AM

I think you need to cross this guy off your friends list. He sounds like a total dick. You don't need a small minded immature idiot that deliberately offends and triggers you. Sorry if I sound a bit harsh but I can't stand people like that.

Try not to harm yourself. Just think of something else. Read a book, visit another friend or watch some TV or anything to get you distracted. Don't let that ******** win, you deserve better than that.

Hope this helps.

misfitscot1980 · 27-01-2009, 05:37 AM

O k so he has showed up at my apartment 3 times since telling him he needs to leave me alone right now can any one give me some advice please i have not cut in almost a week again and now i want to i hate him i hate this i wish it would all just go way why can't i get through to him

wildly insane · 27-01-2009, 09:32 AM

Oh dear he sounds like an absolute tosser, but for one thing if he really was your friend then he'd respect your decision enough to leave you alone, so showing up doesn't show he cares, it shows he cares even less. I hope you have the strength to fight the urges. I know it sounds harsh, but could you not let him in? He might get the picture then. Do you have another friend you can call? just for support? take care, hugs, Hannah

dark_light · 27-01-2009, 10:48 AM

Well done for making it a week!
sounds like you do need to keep away from this guy if he is triggering you, friends don't treat you like that.
Keep safe xx