Dumping Someone.

[Breadsticks]

Okay, so I've kind of been seeing this guy for a few weeks. I've deliberately made sure we're nothing serious, and he knows i'm terrified of commitement. But recently, my depression and anxiety has gotten way worse, and I just can't cope with seeing him at all. I can't even stay at his 'cause I get so stressed. I just want out of this semi-relationship thing. I feel bad, 'cause i'm just not bothered about seeing him at all, when he seems to care a lot. He deserves a lot better than me.


So.. how can I go about "dumping" him as such? Without coming across as a total b*tch?


Thanks.. Natasha.

[Trance]

I am not good with break ups so dont sorry if my advice is rubbish. Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel. Try and take most of the impact off as well as you can.

Or, if you would like to stay with him ask for a break. Hope I have been helpful...

[Detour. Derail]

I agree with Trance....sit him down.
Explain. If he cares he'll understand.

Or....if he DOESNT know about the depression and anxiety ect....
Just say you arent happy or you arent ready to be in a relationship...

Either way should be ok...
you wont seem like a b*tch if you speak nicely ad things.

Hope this helps!!
Take Care
Alexx
xx

[Breadsticks]

Thanks for the advice guys, it helps so much.

And yeah, he has no idea about anxiety / depression.. he just thinks i'm a bit odd. Lolol. And I really don't want him to find out. It's not something I find easy to discuss... ya dig?

So.. you think if I just explain that I can't be in a relationship just now... he might understand? What if he pulls the old, "But we're not in a relationship / don't worry, I don't want a relationship either..." ... what'll I do then??

Thanksss =)

[Dreamer And Believer]

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Originally Posted by RhapsodyInBlue

So.. you think if I just explain that I can't be in a relationship just now... he might understand? What if he pulls the old, "But we're not in a relationship / don't worry, I don't want a relationship either..." ... what'll I do then??

Thanksss =)

Just explain that even though you're not in a relationship, you're feeling a little pressured with how things are now, in the semi-relationship phase, and would like to tone it down?

yeah just explain you're having issues and not ready... but do it as soon as possible, cause the longer you wait the worse it is on both of you.

[Breadsticks]

Thanks so much guys. It helps a lot! I know I need to talk to him asap... but i'm dreading it. I hate any sort of confrontation... even though this is all my own fault!

Thanks again for the adviceee =)