obbsessions and self harm

[claire125]

Hi
Im new here and need help on what to do about my problem.
3 years ago when I first met my husband I found some celebrity nude sites and some pop videos etc on his computer. My boyfriend deleted them but since then I have become obsessed with the fact that he may find other women attractive,that he is thinking about any woman we see in a sexual way
I do not say anything to him but it just goes round in my head
I think that I an ugly and that I look like a man, and have become celebrity obsessed and have to look at images of the women i know my husband likes I upset myself about how pretty and happy they look.
If they are on tv or in magazines I test him constantly and will leave magazines around just to see if he looks at them,
I work in a shop and get upset if I see certain women on magazines or hear songs on the radio
I hate feeling like this and am on the verge of leaving my husband just because he wont have me in his life and he wont have to put up with me. We have virtually no sex life because I wont let him see me as I think I am disgusting
I have ruined my relationship with this constant criticism of myself and how other women look I get so frustrated that I pull out my hair and cut my arms.If there is anyone else who is the same as me or knows what to do then please help.
I just want to get on with my life without this obsession but I dont know where to go for help.

[sherlock holmes]

I don't really know what to suggest, because I experienced roughly the same problem when I had a partner.

It comes down to your self esteem, and yours doesn't seem very high. You should try and make space in the day just for yourself- have a relaxing bath, pamper yourself, do your nails and hair etc I always find that makes me feel better about myself.

Also, have you talked to your husband about the way you feel? He's a bloke, he loves you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you, but he's allowed to think other women look nice. When I was with my partner, I loved him, but I could still think other men looked nice without being unfaithful.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to see a counsellor to work through these problems?

[claire125]

thankyou to control freak for replying thought no one was going to reply !!!!