I'm a freak :(

[unhappy_soul]

I'm going to get straight to it. I caught my boyfriend looking at girls on faceparty (most of these girls were semi naked) and they were within our local area or at least 15 miles around us. There was about 19 of them

I confronted him about it and he lied through his teeth for a while and then when i threatened to leave him, he admitted to looking at them but claimed that he was just making fun of them, nothing else.

That was about a month ago now and i don't trust him anymore. I told him that i don't trust him and it's going to take a while because this isn't the first time he's done something like this

Anyway, last night he got a text from an unknown number (so he claims he doesn't know who's number it is), it said 'Why don't you try jumping on her or try insigating something, you've got to tell her that you're unhappy'.
I think he's been telling someone about our private life but i havn't spoke to him about it yet

We havn't had a very good sex life for a while now, i suppose thats my fault because i've been so depressed, i havn't been up to anything Do you think he's looking for it elsewhere???

We've been together for 5 years this December and have been living together for 3 years.

Sorry about this, i'm so depressed right now

[Little_pixie]

this has also happened to me manly wit txt's from other women my boyfriend did this from months before i found out and tried to kill myself because of what he did so i know how you feel babes i'm still with my boyfriend and we are both unhappy bout the way we are.

ur not a freak it's hard for people who dont have drepression to understand, my boyfriend told me he don't understand and keeps on bout how happy his life as need but he likes to upset me anyways,

sit down with your boyfriend and ask him why he is doing this to you he him that u dont understand why he wants to hurt you by looking and talking to half naked lady's on the internet just tell him it hurt's you and say you just want to understand why and tell him how your are feeling bout what is going on

i'm not saying it with come to anything but please give it a go and babes just look out for youself. your the one that u need to look out for and stay happy and if your not happy with ur boyfriend may b it's time to take a break

* Alison *

p..s pm me if u need to talk ok

[unhappy_soul]

Thanks ever so much for that

When i spoke to him about looking at girls on the internet, i'll be honest, i didn't handle it well, i yelled at him. He broke down and cried which i thought may have been a genuine cry but i can't be sure.

He suffers from depression himself and is seeing a councellor for it but it still doesn't explain his behaviour.

He's i work now but i will speak to him as soon as he gets home.

[Little_pixie]

give him bout 30mins after he getting home and if he is like my boyfriend or dad if you try talking to him as soon as they get home he is get in a bad mood and that wont help you ok.

jus both of u jus sit down and say u dont want to fight or have anyone get upset you just want to talk give him time to talk aswell but also have your say to ok

i hope it goes well tonight babes

[suicidal~lullaby]

Dear, I would suggest you talk to him and get everything out... the truth. Tell him how you feel. Don't beat around the bush. You need to make sure that both of you are happy.

He may be talking to someone else because he doesnt know how to confront you about what is bothering him. Try to get him out of his shell and make it clear that it is not ok to bring other people into your relatiobship.

You are not a freak. If anything while battling depression, he needs to be there for you. You were right in telling him that it bothered you because you need to voice how he felt. If it has happened before, make sure you're telling him straight up why it bothers you.

Get him to try to understand what is going on with you. I know it's hard. I have been there. You have my full support. You are NOT a freak. You are going through a problem that many people can relate to.

Pm me if you want to talk. I am here for you, dear.

[Coppelia]

You are not a freak. Like the others have said, you really need to talk to your boyfriend. He needs to be supporting you through this, not upsetting you. When you talk to him, try and stay calm. Which I know is easier said than done. Take care and don't let him get you down.

*Huggles*

[midnight fairy]

your not a freak and us as women sense when something is up with the mand in our life

i would sit down and talk to him you have bee together a long time i really hope you get it sorted and it all works out

please take care if you need anything feel free to pm me

midnight xxxx

[88shelz]

i would have yelled and cried too.
no matter if he is depressed or dying he stil has no right to be going to other girls...(that is assuming he is) when he is with you.

i really would advise you to speak to him about this and find out the truth.
a relationship needs trust and honesty to work

[unhappy_soul]

he just came home for his break and has left again. We talked and he promised me that he didn't know who it was that text him last night. I've done some digging and found out that he's been texting a girl that he's known for years, who's just cheated on her boyfriend

I've messaged her, asking what he has been saying to her exactly because i know her a bit.

I'll be confronting him when he gets home at 6. Not only has been discussing our private lifes (which has made me feel really small), he has also yet again lied to my face

[Little_pixie]

oh babes i hope u can work though this and if not i think in ur best intest u should leave him if he lie's to u face again u know he is going to b a liar for a very long time

i'm here if u need me ok

[unhappy_soul]

Well after about 20mins of trying to drill it out of him, he finally admitted to telling this girl a bit about our private life. She also explained what was said.
He claimed he was just after advice and he did it with the best intentions i've got him to text her this morning asking for her to not say anything to anyone. I've also laid down a few rules and if he lies again about anything, we're over.

He's also said he's going to take me out to the cinema this Saturday

Thanks ever so much to everyone for all your great advice, you've really helped me out Hugs for everyone

[88shelz]

im glad you have seemed to sort things.
dont forget that you tol him if it happens again tis over...
if it does happen agian and you dont stick to waht you said he will only do it again and again cuz he knows he will be forgiven