being selfish?

zivalover16 · 22-04-2008, 01:45 AM

So I am switching therapist soon as in I've already started the process and stopped seeing my old therapist. The thing is i almost feel like I'm being selfish seeing someone. My SI isn't as bad as when I started to see someone. Just mainly a few slip ups. I mean I still wanna do it but know I shouldn't..... I just kinda feel selfish seeing someone.... I've had to learn distractions pretty much on my own (before I found this site) with the old therapist plus she made me feel worse. I don't know why I'm even posting this.... i quest it'd be nice if someone could tell me the truth on weather or not I'm being selfish....

madamoiselle · 22-04-2008, 02:08 AM

Hey there. I have felt that way too. It's like I am wasting their time or something like that. I used to feel as if my problem was not that serious enough and I would feel guilty whenever I saw my counselor. But people here said that there's no problem that is "not serious enough". So, we all need the same amount of help and attention. I know you feel as if you can make it on your own. But it is always better to seek help. Take care

zivalover16 · 22-04-2008, 03:19 AM

thank you... I couldn't remember exactly how to describe it but that's it..... kinda like my si isn't bad enough....thank you. for the reply ...

crazykat · 22-04-2008, 03:29 AM

Your not selfish for wanting help, infact i think you are really strong and brave to take this step. Don't ever think that because your SI isn't so called "bad enough" you don't deserve help because you deserve help just as much as anyone else. I mean where can you draw the line of whats bad enough and what warrents help? The truth is there is always gonna be someone out there who's problems seem worse than your own. If its something thats bothering you, that in itself is good enough reason to warrent getting help. Try not to compare yourself to others if you can, I know its not as easy as that. Remember your problems no matter how big or small are worth it. Take care
Kat xxx

iriedanym · 22-04-2008, 05:27 AM

It's not selfish to want to get help. Everyone has issues, but don't think yours are not significant or worth bringing up.