The problem with having a lot of friends into the same "stuff" as you, means that when you're with them,said "stuff" is always there.
A lot of my friends do drugs as a bit of fun, night out, couple of hits, whatever. Think nothing else of it.
A few of my friends don't do it at all.
A few of my friends are pretty much,constantly high.
One of them's just gone back into rehab.
It's a bit of a mesh of people really.
The thing is, I know when I'm taking stuff to forget, or to get over something, or to ignore something. I know that it's a problem. I just chose to ignore it.
None of my friends appear to have the same issue. I know you could be all "they're lying,they're hiding it" or whatever, but they're not. I've been friends with most of these people for YEARS.
I just, I have no idea how to turn around and say "This is a problem"
"Watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it."
You don't have to say "this is a problem" to them. You've said it to yourself. You need to decide what to do about it.
Have you looked into a support group? People who have the same problems you do? You will be better able to help yourself and have safer people to hang out with.
I've been sober in AA for a while. As I've stayed sober, most of my friends are from there and those people are safe to be with. They're interesting too. We find we have more in common than our problems.
PM me if you want to or need to.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
You don't have to say "this is a problem" to them. You've said it to yourself. You need to decide what to do about it.
Have you looked into a support group? People who have the same problems you do? You will be better able to help yourself and have safer people to hang out with.
I've been sober in AA for a while. As I've stayed sober, most of my friends are from there and those people are safe to be with. They're interesting too. We find we have more in common than our problems.
PM me if you want to or need to.
I do need to say it to them. I need my friends.
I'm not actually interesting in being sober to be honest. I just, don't want to use drugs as a crutch kinda thing? If that makes sense, sure it'd be better not to do them at all,but really,I'm not interested in that.
Support groups are more about stopping then controlling I suppose. I'm not after someone to tell me drugs are good,that cokes a great thing to spend my money on,I know it's not. I know they **** people up. I've seen them **** people up. I'm not oblivious to that, I just.
I want to be able to say no from time to time?
"Watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it."
gosh, that's a hard one.
lets put it this way (i wish to insult nobody!), without this 'stuff' you will be healthier, happier, able to work more efficiently, have more money, live longer, be able to remember, be able to engage in life, have better sleep, think more clearly, study/learn more easily. etc etc etc etc. I like to think of it as you NEVER KNOW whether what your taking is dodgy. I used to think i knew about all substances pretty well, yet, on one occasion when i assessed the situation and went yeah this stuff is fine....it wasn't, and i know that that ONE trip screwed with my head majorly.
Choosing to aknowledge that using substances to get away from reality is less responsible, productive, and mature is the difficult option, but one that can make you very very strong!
pm me if you like.
Kat xoxo
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Hi Ash,
Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I am fat, no judgement call there, I just like sweets. People sometimes have a difficult time accepting that there are times that I don't want to eat. They almost push it on me. I've just learned to say no thank you. As many times as it takes.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
