I stopped talking to many friends for a good, I'd say perhaps 2ish years and, when I reached out and re-connected, they treated me as if I had never been away. They didn't need a lot of explanations either, though if you felt you wanted to explain you could, initially or at a later point once you'd have time to re-acquaint. I say that and not re-build because building sounds a bit daunting and exhausting when in fact many friends may be likely to just spark off from where you left off. Especially given it's only since July. Do they know you were in hospital & about your Grandad? That information alone would give them a picture that they may not even need any more explanation to be able to empathise that you weren't perhaps in the best place at the time mentally. If some people don't get back to you it may not be that that's in response to you feeling you pushed them away, it might be that they're doing a bit of their own pushing away right now so please don't let that dishearten you if that happens once nor stop it from letting you reconnect with others. I would say it's not too late at all.
Do you have any help or things in place to try to help with the ED at the moment?
Like said, maybe messaging and just chatting via the internet/text and then suggest a catch up in person.
Trying your best is the best you can do :)
When I am tempted to isolate and become recluse like I try to have even just a 1 minute conversation with the cashier at the shop or someone sitting waiting at the bus stop- tiny tiny connection with another human that, when I get a positive response (and most people will smile and nod encouragingly) makes me confident to reconnect with those that know me in real life such as friends (via something as simple as a one line facebook message)
It's awesome you're trying to reconnect and that you want to, having seen that MH is costing you that at the moment. Sounds like you're acting to intervene before things get worse, and that is great
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