boyfriend doesnt understand i dont get it

[amy_]

I dont understand how my boyfriend doesnt understand anymore how it feels how to have an urge to self harm after so long. trying to fight it is the hardest thing im doing. ive been fighting it for a week and a half how the hell does he not ****ing understand?! Hes been though this to hes had his fight with self harm .he won his fight .im still fighting mine and he has the guts to say that if i do he will to i dont know what to tell him ive been talking to my ex bf and hes more there for me then my bf is . Is it wrong for me to not tell him how bad i really am doing when the guy i turned to offered to come over and hang just to keep me safe in a way after what he said im angry and upset at the same time idk what to feel .

[amy_]

makes me feel worse on how he reacted i want to do it more but im questioning if i should even be with him

[saramher]

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Originally Posted by amy_

he has the guts to say that if i do he will to

Dear, that's called emotional blackmail. Saying that he's going to do something that will emotionally hurt you if you happen to slip up is really unhealthy, and he should not be doing that. You need to talk to him and tell him that that attitude is not helping, and if he really wanted to help you he wouldn't say things like that to you. It's possible that he doesn't realize that saying that would be that bad, but you should definitely make it known to him. If he still doesn't get it after you explicitly tell him how you feel, then he doesn't sound like someone you should turn to for this kind of thing.

[amy_]

the thing is i dont think i can talk to him about antything after he said that it hurt me .i hung up on him for it and turned off my phone. ive talked to him since but he thinks im not thinking about it anymore .i really dont think i can turn to him anymore like i used to. ive talked to him about him saying that he just said it was the only way to make sure i stayed safe but i never felt safe i can never tell him i dont feel any safer when he says that