Getting what you need from Adults or leaving

[Puck]

I really really really dont get on with either of my workers (support worker and cpn) i always give people beneffit of the doubt but they really make a strong negative reaction within me. Its not fear.. i dont know how to explain it.. I just repell them i dont know. They make my stomach turn and make me want to disappear off the face of planet.

Im new to adult services, i've only been with them a month. I haven't even seen them that much.. but this isnt a post saying i dont like them because they dont get me or the normal anxieties over starting with someone new... its shere gut wrenching i dont like you. Im not normal to be like that.

I cant talk to them at all... i don't even want to write things down for them.. after they saw me today i seriously thought 'sod it, i dont want to anywhere near me or a part of my life' I dont know if its the non complient part of me coming through. I dont want to see them again. Im going to give them a bit more time to make up my mind. But id like to know whether changing cpn's or sw's is possible?? Also because i think they have issues with my age... i feel like they're treating me like a 5 year old with self esteem issues... which isnt me i am actually very unwell according to my old doctor. Also they're putting words in my mouth and deciding who i am without hearing me. I dont even want to really bother working with them.. its how strongly i feel towards them.

You know when a cat gets a bad idea of someone and the puff up and hiss at them.. i feel like thats what im doing (obviously not literally)

So yes changing key workers or i can i refuse to see them and just see the doc once in a while? I just need general advice..

[not_so_insig]

The thing is that you refuse to see them, they can phone the police to check on your welfare if they think you could be danger. Depending on your state the police could section you if the social worker was not present.


Alternatively they could get a section (section 134) where a social worker has an legal power to enter your home via force and detain you to the nearest hospital to be assessed. The same section applies if you are living with someone but they think you are not being cared for properly. However both would take place if they were seriously worried about you - one missed appointment would not usually warrant such drastic action.

The best course would be to explain to them that you feel that you are not getting on or are not able to to work with them in the broadest terms possible. Explain that you feel that you would be better off with a brand new worker(s).

You could ask to be discharged back to your GP which they may agree to, but usually if they discharge you from their care they usually talk it over to when they feel that both from your point of view and theirs it is the right decision. However if they feel you need more "intensive" care than an occasional GP's appointment they are liable to say no, so that is why I warned you what could happen.

[whirlpools]

It's a big culture shock changing from CAMHS to adult services I know. But once you adjust to the new service's way of thinking, and they adjust to you, and you get to know each other, then things might get easier. Sometimes we feel very negative towards people because they make us aware of things about ourselves that we are trying to hide from ourselves. Other times it's because they remind us of people/times in the past. Sometimes they remind us of ourselves.

Of course, sometimes they're just useless for us, and we should trust our instinct. Tricky to decipher which one it is!

You're always entitled to request a change of care co-ordinator. Whether or not they have to grant it, I'm unsure.

Do you know what it is you dislike about them so much?

Edit: Just read your R/V. She doesn't sound very nice.

[Puck]

Thank you for both of your replies, i'll think about both of them. I'll stick with them for the mean time, i may just go chat to my gp about it. The psychologist assesment i had the person said they'd see me again for a second one if they feel the need which is likely, i could talk to her about it as she was like a sigh of relief. Thankyou for also reading my rv thread disappear. Im glad you see my point of view.

Also insignificant one i dont think they know me well enough to even be worried about me, i think they wouldnt bother doing a thing if i refused to see them.

I'll have a good think

[Sigma]

Asking for a change happens a lot and shoudln't be a problem - sometimes people just don't 'click', of course also there are people working in the health services who just shouldn't be!

But, why not talk it over with the people you do trust - your GP and the psychologist? Also perhaps stick it out for a couple more sessions and see how it goes. Then you have a stronger case for changing because you've given it a go.

But it's best not to discharge yourself when you need support, better to aks for a change.