I dunno where I stand. I don't know what to do!? Please help me, Someone :(
Okay, So here it is; I'm 20weeks Pregnant & it turns out that because my job has cut me down to just doing 2mornings a week, it's not gonna be enough for me to be entitled to the Government Maternity Benefit once I've had this baby.
So it means that once I have the baby, I've pretty much got to go back to work asap, in order to keep me & the baby alive.
My boyfriend lives with me - the babies father - So I'm not gonna get any other help from the Benefits because he earns too much. But he's being such a douche, by now saying that he isn't gonna be able to help me out with expenses because he's still gonna have his own bills to pay!
Already, I have to pay for the food, gas & Letric on the earnings of just £54 a week. It's stressing me out, because he's on my case about money for the moment, but then once the baby comes.. We're gonna have more expenses coming out from the baby & I won't be able to work in the same job anymore as I can't get a babysitter, So I'd have to find evening work.
But I'm just sooooo stressed out! & Peed off, because he's making me feel so low. I thought the men, it was in their nature to want to provide for his girl & baby. Specially as I'm having to go through the birth, which in some known cases, can kill you! But also having to go through the 9months with the carrying-progress, he just isn't bothered by it!
& then once I've had the baby, he's expecting me to go back to work straight after, to carry on earning the cash to pay for Food, Gas, Letric, TV-License, Water & etc, just whilst he pays his debts off & the Rent & Council tax
.. Am i entitled to be stressed & peed off at him, because of what he's wanting/expecting from me? Or am I just being a Gold-Digger & expecting too much? xxx
I can't cope like this anymore..
I dont even wanna say it, let alone think it, but he's making me like I'm regretting falling pregnant by accident! & the worst thing is, I can't seem to fix any of this,
I don't wanna be stuck in this Situation anymore.
Giving up the baby would never be an option, but in someway, i just wish i never fell pregnant now, then I wouldnt have to be with this guy & I wouldn't be in this dilema :(
Sorry you're struggling with this right now. I'm in a similar situation as yourself.
I think you have every right to be p*ssed off at him - this is his child too and he must take responsibility for it both personally and financially.
My advice would be to speak to either the Jobcentre or Citizens Advice about what would be available to you or what you can do to ensure your boyfriend keeps up his part of the responsibility.
you totally should be upset with him. he is as responsible for the baby as you are. i'm not sure what the rules are in the UK, but in the US there is child support that the court can make him pay if you go through some sort of process to get it. also, if your boyfriend lives with you, it seems to me that he should be paying part of the food, gas, electric, and all that....
it sounds like you don't want to stay with him, but feel that you don't have any other options because of the baby.... is that correct?
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