Triggering (SI) - my friends have a warped idea of support

[DestroyMe]

ok, so most of the people I am friends with have self harmed before, or currently do it, so they understand when they see a scar on me, I don't feel like I have to hide when I'm around them, but when it comes to a recent cut or self injuring episode I get nervous because most of my friends don't know how to deal with that. they see a fresh cut on me and they get prone to hit that area, as they seem to think if they keep doing that I'll stop. this is only a cuople of my friends that do that, the rest of my friends understand a lot better.
my g/f understands better then most of my friends so I can openly show her cuts/scars without feeling scared, she usually asks me why, but never gets upset about it, we havea general rule that if one of us slips we have to tell the other, and showing usually comes hand in hand with that. like the otehr day I told her up front the reason why I didn't want to swim with the rest of the girls and when one of my friends asked me to get in the water she made up a thing about her having to talk ot me, just so I wouldn't have to get in the water.
a few of my guy friends are indiffernt about my scars/cuts they'll help out in anyway that they can if I need someone to talk to or a bandaid or something but they don't freak out if they find out I slipped.
what irritates me is ALL of my friends are SIers, so it's screwed up that they can't support me more, they should know that the reaction such as getting angry over someone that has slipped is not the way to go.
the ones that do support me understand that if I want to talk I will and don't push the issue, but there's a couple of my friedns that don't really understand how to support me if I've slipped.
how can I tell them that hitting the area that I've cut doesn't help me stop?

[popsicle]

This is going to sound blunt and jerk-like, but have you tried telling them it hurts?

[snowflake]

Tell them straight up that you don't like it and that it doesn't help you when they do that. Be honest with them and hopefully they will stop.

[Popple]

Im sorry they are acting like that, I agree you need to be honest with them and if they don't accept what you have said and that it doesn't help for them to do that then to be honest they aren't the best of friends/
.Take care
x

[sapphire hearts]

My gf and I are both SIers, although we've been doing pretty well at stopping. But we don't talk about our own SI when we do, because when we're feeling really down, we're not good for each other. Sometimes SIer's have difficulty dealing with other people's self-inflicted injuries because they realise that when they self harm, their friends feel like they do after seeing you hurt yourself (I hope that makes sense). Although I don't think your friends are behaving in a great way, maybe it would be best to talk about your cuts/scars with people you know can deal with it in a better way. People who have emotional problems tend to group together, I know, but sometimes that can make things worse for everyone. I know that all your friends care about you, and are worried for you, it's just that some people, even people who've SIed themselves, don't deal with the fact that their friends are cutting in a rational, reasonable way. It might be that all you have to do is sit down with them and talk it through: explain that they're not helping you recover with their behaviour and ask them to stop. I know your friends are sincerely trying to help you, but even people who've cut themselves before can react the wrong way.
Take care, and I hope things work out with your friends. I'm here if you want to talk.
Katie x