Triggering (Suicide) - DBT *SI*

brokengal · 05-10-2008, 05:40 AM

I hope tyhis is in the right forum?

Im about to start DBT on Tuesday. My first group session. My psych and me have been doing committment work - whatever that is?

Im becoming really nervous and scared about it. Like I shouldnt go. CBT did **** all for me. I dont think anything is going to work! Actually I know it wont. i think Im going to give up on myself, life everything.

Ive cut too many times today! Thinking of seriously ending my life. Just waiting to get the means....I think....

My psych thinks that DBT will be perfect for me and ill start to feel better soon. She doesnt take me seriously when i talk to her about how suicidal i am. It feeels like that she thinks my whole situation is funny or somethink?
I dont see the funny side of it. This is my life that she is playing with. I think that i made a massive mistake letting her in. Why did i trust her? Well this is typical me. Stupid me.

As you can proberly tell Im very confused!!

Joanne

Revival · 05-10-2008, 07:24 AM

hey, welcome to RYL first off
second, I'm sorry that your psych isnt taking you seriously, have you tried telling her how you really feel, (which I guess you already have...) maybe try printing off this post and giving it to her? Have you told her how you feel about DBT? maybe she would be able to explain it more and tell you why she thinks it might help you, if she hasnt already.
You're not stupid at all, it's not stupid to trust someone, it takes great strength, and it's understandable to be confused.
Please don't give up, I know that you feel DBT isnt going to help, but isnt it worth giving it a try in case it does?
We're here to support you through this
Good luck with whatever you choose
take care
xx

ThinkingofRecovery · 05-10-2008, 11:23 AM

Hi Joanne

Welcome to RYL, I hope you find it helpful, I certainly have.

I'm sorry you feel that your psych doesn't take you seriously. However, if she has referred you to DBT, objectively she must be taking you seriously; it is often difficult to get a referral for such therapy and a psych would not do so lightly as they need to be sure that it would be helpful. If she thinks it will be helpful, she is taking you seriously. Sorry, my random waffle probably doesn't make much sense.

Have you and your psych spoken re your concerns - that CBT did nothing and how the DBT would be different and more likely to help?

sherlock holmes · 05-10-2008, 12:07 PM

CBT and DBT are different, so even if CBT did not help that does not mean DBT won't.

Also, DBT was created specifically for suicidal and self harming women, your psychiatrist isn't trying to ignore the fact that you are suicidal, she is actually giving you a therapy that is designed to help. She's not playing a game, it sounds to me like she is taking you very seriously by suggesting this therapy for you.

DBT is very effective if you really give it a go. If you are half hearted with it, then it probably wont do anything.

As no reason said, DBT is actually very hard to get referred for and there are often long waiting lists as it's a highly regarded therapy.

shadowedseraph · 05-10-2008, 12:49 PM

Hi Joanne and welcome to RYL :)

DBT is hard work but can yeild amazing results for suicidal and self harming behaviours. I went into it with extreme scepticism but coming out of it i find it has helped. It hasnt taken away the feelings and the urges but its given me a method to cope with them. No it doesnt work 100% of the time but 80% is better than 0 *hugs&best of luck*

Tig · 05-10-2008, 04:30 PM

Good luck sweetheart. I think it's fantastic you have been offered DBT as it does mean somebody is taking you seriously.
I too was very sceptical when I went for my first DBT session, in fact adamant that it wouldn't help (it took 2 years to persuade me) and now, well what a difference. I'm still in the early stages of DBT but it's really helped me a lot and I hope it helps you too.
x

deadstar · 05-10-2008, 05:24 PM

Heya
I'm in DBT at the moment, and like you, i thought it was a load of rubbish before i started and I didn't beieve that it would help me at all.
Now i've been doing it for almost a year and the difference it has made is really noticeable.
All i can say is give it a go and if you've got any questions about it or anything, feel free to PM me.
*hugs* xx