Debate - How long to wait????

[Pi.R^2]

I made my friend a lasagne as per social protocol and as I handed it over said ‘let me know if it’s OK’. They have not mentioned it since. This creates worries that it was not OK, a concern that I have a friend with zero manners and also a crisis about whether I will ever get my lasagne dish back. In my humble opinion, unless otherwise stated, the lasagne dish is not included in the gift when gifting a lasagne.

After how long should I raise the issue of the lasagne dish?

Other thoughts on this social conundrum most welcome.

[Puck]

A week is more than enough time for them to consume, hopefully clean and hand back your dish. I think it's rude they haven't said anything. Id be anxious too but still it's rude on their part that they haven't appreciated the effort you went too

[The Worst Witch]

How long ago did you gift said lasagna? I’d wait a week or so after giving said gift because I’m assuming it couldn’t be frozen and therefore should’ve been consumed by now.

[Pi.R^2]

A very clear consensus on a week! Especially as I sent the poll to a non-RYL friend (a controversial notion I know) and they also said a week!

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Originally Posted by Puck

A week is more than enough time for them to consume, hopefully clean and hand back your dish.

Oh golly, imagine if they don't wash the dish! I will be outraged!

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Originally Posted by The Worst Witch

How long ago did you gift said lasagna? I’d wait a week or so after giving said gift because I’m assuming it couldn’t be frozen and therefore should’ve been consumed by now.

5 days ago, I made no suggestion as to whether or not it could be frozen but from what I could tell the plan was to eat it that night.

Also why do you spell lasagne funny?

ETA: realise that^ sounds rude, which I fully was being, but only in a jokey playful way if that makes sense????

[The Worst Witch]

Lasagne is the plural form of lasagna, I assumed you only gave her one? If not you are indeed correct!

Also lasagna is the American spelling, I didn’t know until google that it was different!

[Auror.]

can confirm ali used the american spelling.


would give it two weeks if it were us.


if not eaten in a week then it would be transferred to be frozen or tossed out. so two weeks would be time to do that, wash, and make arrangements to return the dish.

that said if it were us, upon receiving we would probably offer to transfer to a different container immediately to be able to return the dish. and if not would ask when it was needed. but that may be an only us thing.





eta - the site has been good speed today, and the guest count seems back down! maybe the issue was sorted somehow?

[Pi.R^2]

BIG UPDATE EVERYONE

Firstly I thought 'lasagna' was just an American thing hence roasting a non-American for it. I didn't know about the plural thing so that blew my mind a bit. Whilst I gifted a single dish containing lasagne, multiple sheets of lasagna pasta were used so I stand by the decision to use 'lasagne' but will always be unsure of myself going forward.

Secondly, it hit the one week point which was the consensus on here (aside from MOAR LEZBIANS of course) so I politely asked when I might get my lasagne/lasagna dish back. She nonchalantly explained that by that morning it had been washed but that the silicone lid had not so she made her partner wash it but it was still wet so she'd bring it the next time she saw me. She added that it was delicious.

WHAT AN ANTICLIMAX FOLKS????? A mutual associate of ours wanted to roast her about her poor lasagne/lasagna etiquette and I said he could but that he'd first have to explain what he was roasting her for as in her eyes there was no issue with seeing me multiple times post-lasagne/lasagna and not mentioning it at all. Maybe that's how the lasagne/lasagna protocol works? Maybe I'm wrong for having expected a timely answer to my question about whether it was OK? WHO KNOWS AT THIS POINT

A social conundrum all round and what feels like a really anticlimactic outcome.

[The Worst Witch]

I often get confused about the phrase ‘let me know how you get on *insert thing here* because sometimes people just say it to be polite and don’t actually mean it. So maybe she thought you were just asking and didn’t realise you required an answer?

Case in point: I asked my sister if she could let me now how T (nephew) got on with his vaccinations the other day and she seemed genuinely surprised I meant it!

[Auror.]

hmm yea if you saw one another irl it would have made sense to mention it! at least to us. we would have mentioned it no matter what just to say thank you again. especially if we ate it more than once we might even send a little message to be like enjoying it again or something. just to show how grateful we were. but we might be extra polite about that kind of stuff.


hopefully you will get the dish back soon then.