Contains bullying - My 'friends' are the worst bullys
I think I have friends but im not to sure. I think that they use me and when I have nothing to give its like they dont want me around. When its all parties and fun and when I bring the alcohol they cant get enough of me but when I need someone they ignore me. We have the same classes yet im left sitting alone and walking to class alone. The only time they text me is when they are asking for sometginh and they tell me mean tghimgs about me in a nice way endlessley but that dosent make it not mean... They hang out close to my house vut never invite me and try to hide it from me. Im so hurt and conflicted im so lonley aand its the worst thing I have ever felt and also its not like this just staryed.its been going o...for as long as I can remember. My family is poorer than dirt and I give them everything I have to give. Whywont they like me? What do I do? It hurts so bad and I just need someones help...please I feele like im going to die of lonleyness.,please just someone?
*hugs*
I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a hard time, and I'm sorry your so called friends treat you like that. No one deserves that.
I know it might seem harsh, but have you tried doing something to meet a new group of friends? These ones don't sound very supportive of you.
If you ever wanna talk, please feel free to PM me.
x Katie x
i'm sorry that ur going through this
i'm having the same thing with my 'friends'
i got used to it now and i realised thats just what people do
ultimately they know u'll always do what they want so they take u for granted
i know its hard but u have to decide which of them are worth your while and dont sweat it about the rest
it sucks that they are this selfish with u :(
feel free to PM me wenever u want to talk
*hugs*
Dont worry yourself over this.
I went through exactly the same with so called friends I had during my schooldays, & one chap from my schooldays up untill 5 years ago who I thought was my friend turned out to be there only when it suited him & if I asked a favour in return he would give his excuses & in company he'd basically try & make a fool out of me, but the last straw came when he gave my mrs a peck on the cheek- I saw this as deliberate action to undemine my self confidence & boost his feeling of power over me/others.
That was 5 years ago & I've not seen or spoken to him since.
I still dont have many what I'd describe as real friends, but those I do have my best interests & I can rely on them when needs be.
So bide your time & make new friends, genuine friendship happens naturally, so dont try to rush the issue & have confidence with the fact that you deserve better than the so called friends you have at the moment who make you feel an outcast.
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I was so ugly that when I was born the midwife slapped our dad !
The first thing you have to realize is that people will use you if you're too nice. It's a sad thing, but I've only learned this from life experience. Now, that doesn't mean you have to be mean or heartless. However, sometimes you must put yourself before others; that does not make you selfish. If they're not helping you out, why should you go out of your way to bring them booze so they can enjoy themselves? You have to take care of yourself before you can start helping others.
I've always been the "quiet" one in my group of friends, and due to my fear of social situations, I never really leave my safe circle of people I know. I used to just let people walk all over me, saying stuff about me that was truly hurtful, but I'd just laugh it off. At one point, I decided to change that. The first time is the toughest, but once you become assertive, things start going your way. You might even have to come across as mean a couple of times, but people will realize that you're a human being with feelings and you are not inferior to anyone. Honestly, if it's hard for you to be assertive, you have to force yourself to blank out your mind--it's a hard yet rewarding process. Without having time to think about what you're going to say, you'll simply act on feelings, and if what they've said is hurtful to you, you can retaliate--just make sure not to cry. Let them know what they've done is wrong and you're not going to put up with it.
You have to radiate your confidence, which will automatically make people realize that you are not willing to be someone's pet. And if you don't have confidence--fake it. Seriously. I know that sounds like dumb advice, but it works so well. Walk with your head held high and don't go out of your way to be generous. I'm not saying stop being nice, but limit your generosity until you know your friends are people who will truly stick with you, because those kinds of friends are the only ones worth helping.
Sorry if my advice is crappy, and if it doesn't solve your problems, I still believe being a little more assertive and confident will get you one step closer to not being pushed around and used. Take it from someone who's had experience in that department.
Hope everything goes well for you, and if you ever need help, just PM me.
:)
Can someone advise me how to apply my signature to my posts ? ..., as when I tried my pen scratched my PC screen.
I was so ugly that when I was born the midwife slapped our dad !
Sorry I havent been on here in along time I just havent felt up to anything really but I will take your advice and try to be more assertive its just hard for me because it just goes aginst my idk nature I guess but I will try to be more asssertive and convident from now on.
Sorry I havent been on here in along time I just havent felt up to anything really but I will take your advice and try to be more assertive its just hard for me because it just goes aginst my idk nature I guess but I will try to be more asssertive and convident from now on.
Hey, don't worry about it. Like I said, it won't be easy. I'm currently working on problems of my own, like being afraid to speak up in a large group, and I know it's not easy to change the way you are. Just don't stress it and try your best! Good luck!
