I've become more and more unwell, and because of all of this I think I've started to push my partner away.
I find it very very hard to have sex at the moment. I love him, and I am extremely attracted to him but the thought of sex makes me feel sick. Even a friendly pat on the ass makes me feel squemish.
Now he keeps saying I've changed and I'm worried it's because of the lack of intamacy.
Has anyone else had this problem, and do they have any advice to help me fix my relationship?
Location: Denial Tent, Virtual Psych Ward Campsite, MA, USA
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i think that is a symptom of depression
can also be a side-effect of ADs
sorry to hear that you and your partner are having problems
could you talk to him about it? about why you feel that way? he could help you and support you through it
he is your partner after all ;)
i think it might be time to ring your doc and get some help, because it seems like you want to get better and fix this
good luck
xxxooo
sorry i didnt read all replies so i may very well be repeating...but i wanted to reply quickly [impatient sod i am]...i went/am going thru this...i almost want to...but i cant.
Tell your hunni its the most common side effect of depression , not to mention some meds can do it too...
we [hubby and i] are sort of pretending we are dating again; just cuddles, laying together watching movies, no pressure or expectations, like the beginning of a relationship..silly kises on the nose, the neck, cuddles, massages[ NON-sexual]
its helped...i hope ive said SOMETHING uselful..i know how scary this can be as you [i did] fear your partner will leave cos of it..talk to him hunni.
love ya
and pls feel free to pm ok??
romp
I've had depression for a long time, but I've only recently started taking Aripiprazole - Could it be a side effect of that?
It's hard to talk about my illness with my partner, but I think I'm going to have to take your advice and try to explain things. I need him to know it's not his fault, but also that it's not entirely mine.
Then maybe he'll be willing to work through things with me; rather than making me feel like I'm starving him, or trying it on when he can see I'm in a bad mood.
Location: Denial Tent, Virtual Psych Ward Campsite, MA, USA
I am currently:
DEFINITELY could be a side effect of Aripiprazole, esp if you only just started it and these feelings are recent. mention it to your doc and there might be something they can do.
talking to your partner is a really good idea - it's awkward, but it might be more awkward to have this be like a big elephant in the room that neither of you are dealing with. good luck zowie, keep us updated
xxxooo
Okay it mayb strange that im answer this but i've been searching around reading alot of blogs talkin about this! Im only 14 years old goin on 15 and i have the same exact feelings. I was so confused and started questioning my sexuality, and i think i just maybe asexual. i live in a community where teens sme still in elementary are having sex. I was too niave at first, but then in 8th grade i heard moanin in the neighborin bathroom stalls. I found it bizarre and shocking. Just recently i found out my cousin who is only a grade older than me(10th) was having sex. It was when reality finally struck me. I started dating but not to serious or intimate, simply holding hands with the guy. But then i felt too close to him and pushd him away, he seemd more like a brother to me, and we continued to b friends.
8th grade was also wen my hormones started kickin in, id wear the craziest things ever, people would look at me crazy. nd after school i hangd out with my best girl and guy friends. i would even stay after school for make ups wen there was no need.(i was popular for being smart, silly and simple) i probably danced the dirtiest at dances
but enough about my who middle school life...
...u shouldnt feel bad about this. i personally jst dont like the thought of it. Im okay with talkin about sex, but i dnt think i'll ever be able to do "it". its not wrong, its ur choice of life. some want to stay pure, some have religious reasons, some because they experience some sort of sexual abuse in early childhood I JST DONT WANT IT! watever the reason may be for you mayb u should check around or mayb u should see a doctor DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!! :D
