This week I've been at a dance summer school, so it's leotards and strappy tops all over the place. I didn't really think about my scars too much and didn't think I'd feel uncomfortable displaying them, as they aren't terribly prominent and they're only in one area of one arm.
I made it nearly 3 days without anyone noticing and asking anything, and I'd practically forgotten about my scars, when a girl asked me today 'what happened to your arm?'. I thought that if I'd got asked that question I would just say 'it's a long story' and leave it at that, but when put on the spot like that I didn't feel like it was a good enough explanation so I just mumbled 'an accident' and went a bit embarrassed. I probably wasn't too convincing.
So what's the best way to react when people ask questions?
I do exactly what you said you planned; 'It's a long story' then start talking about something else, and if they persist carry on 'nevermind' and keep changing the subject, they soon get bored.
It is a personal thing I guess, some people are comfortable to say the truth, whereas others use excuses or just shrug it off... I don't like excuses personally, if somebody asks they are usually concerned and most excuse self harmers use kind of mock that support...
So yeah, I suggest shrugging it off like you were going to try, or just ignoring they asked completely like you never heard. =]
Well done for not letting your scars effect the fun parts of your life, that's great. =]
Good luck with dancing and everything, I hope your enjoying it. =]
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I usually tell them it's none of their business and ask them why they were even looking that closely in the first place instead of minding their own business.
I'm glad you are doing what makes you happy, regardless of scars. :)
Yeah, usually my head goes AHHH!!!! and I get all embarassed and awkward and my voice goes funny haha don't handle it well at all. Really people won't expect it to be SI and are likely to belive whatever you say to them as long as it's not like unsafe sex with a raccoon :L
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in time you will get used to it and you will eventually get over the embarrassed stage.
i usually come out with the same answer every time.. "it's a long story.."
normally, after this people don't pursue it but you obviously will get the odd few that will carry on.. just tell them it's none of their business :D
Today my friends boyfriend asked about a few band-aids on my left hand and I accidentally said "I cut myself." I wanted to die. I was so shocked I even said it. I got so anxious after.
but the phrase "I cut myself" could actually just be you using the past tense, it's not like you're saying "I purposefuly cut myself" You could just leave it at that, people won't assume the later me thinks
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but the phrase "I cut myself" could actually just be you using the past tense, it's not like you're saying "I purposefuly cut myself" You could just leave it at that, people won't assume the later me thinks
i think your right here because i think we jsut think that because we do it if htat makes sense...like if my friend had a cut and i asked about it and she said i cut myself i would think the worse whereas shes just stating the obvious
i can still never bring myself to say oh i just cut myself because its a bit too near the truth if that makes sense
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