arguements with myself

[xrebornx]

I dont really know were to start.

Well ill start by saying i have a scitzophrenia, depression, asspergess* and they say i might have another dissorder (sorry im not trying to advertise my illness' but if i say them now then if anyone wants to know whats what they can go back to this page to referance)

Its hard to put this into words so if i dont explain properly feel free to ask me to explain some of it (as i say when im online 'the worse thing i can do is say no').

I often find myself having arguments with diffrent people, not the normal arguments were there are two or more people putting there points across, but arguments when there is only me in the room. I hear the other person shouting at me, telling me im wrong about stuff or how i did the wrong thing sometimes they just start on something menial and make it into a big issue so when i see that person i often finding myself being angry with them.
And i dont mean just like me thinking what there saying into like a script or play, each person has there own personality, even if i dont know the person who im arguing with (i can argue with people who push infront of me in a cue, or at someone whos sitting outside of my house). They each have there own personalitys like i said, they also have there own backstory/history. i can argue for hours sometimes, it can be about anything, they always have the advamtage as they can read my mind, so they can prepare a 'come back' before i mention it, and they know my secrets and use them to there advantage. Im sick of it and i would just like to know if anyone else has this problem, and how they cope.

just to recap as i think ive got this all complecated up: I have arguments with people when there not around, they know everything about me and use it to there advantage, they all have there own personalitys, i get angry with the people who i argue with (even though it may not really be them in my head) and basically i wanted tips on how to cope with this specific symptom, thanks for reading, and please and thankyou if you reply

*sorry im not great at spelling

[Merc]

I'm not really sure of any advice; aside from talking to your doc/psych/whatever.
Perhaps it is an issue meds could solve? Or therapy?
Sorry...am at a loss here, but wanted to say something...
It sounds very time consuming and distressing.
Do you think it is because of the schizophrenia? Or...?
Hope you can speak to someone soon.
xx

[quiet1]

i thought i would reply because i could relate to what you posted. i do not have schizophrenia but i do argue with people in my head.

the best i can describe it is when someone does something to annoy me or such i argue with them (things i would like to say but don't) and they argue back with me things they know about me to use against me. then i have to defend myself and it just keeps going.

so...yes. i can relate. now what do i do to help with it? i have to try to get out of myself by doing something different. i have to leave the house, room, store, etc and do something to keep me grounded. like writing or smelling a nice candle, blasting my music in my earphones. then i have to try to think of a story that explains why the other person annoyed me that lets them off the hook. like....they bumped into me because they had to make a serious phone call about a dying relative. that makes me have compassion for the other person and i can't argue with someone who has a dying relative.

i hope i have explained myself properly. i wouldn't want to make it seem like this problem is trite. it is very distressing and time consuming and very often makes me paranoid. (i have OCD which may be what causes me to have this problem)

i hope you can find some solutions that work for you!

[Steel Maiden]

Hello.
I just wanted to say that I have schizophrenia and Asperger's syndrome too, so I can relate.

[Stellata]

It seems that you have a whole bunch of internal conflicts that you're struggling to resolve, but find it hard to do it consciously. What do you think?

[xrebornx]

maybe your right Stellata, i'll have to think about it more, i have been trying to and i still dont really know, and if youre right i dont know what the conflicts are exactly as the arguments are about a few things. thanks for the advice, and ( i dont know the word but for all the comments like 'i can relate' comments i apreciate it) thanks again