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nomad 28-03-2009 10:33 AM

when words run out
 
yesterday my friend learned of some distressing news which sent them into a depressive spiral
i kept chattin to them on msn - trying to keep them busy until their partner returned home from work
but inevitably the time came when they said they had to go
and im pretty sure self-harm was on their mind

i had nothin useful left to say .. except 'try to keep yourself safe'
and i felt bad knowin there was nothin i could do and that there were still at least 3-4 hrs left before someone else would be in the house

this mornin? i am wonderin how they are

wildly insane 28-03-2009 11:12 AM

I'm sure you helped chatting, you couldn't have done anymore. Sometimes we can't do everything, but little things go a long way. I hope your friend is okay and please don't beat yourself up over something you had so little control over. You were there for your friend and he/she knows it, that is the most important thing, hugs, Hannah.

one_step_closer 28-03-2009 12:51 PM

You did all that you could do, and it's great that you were there to support your friend. I hope that everything is ok. Take care of yourself.

Ds. 28-03-2009 01:57 PM

Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is be there...... and you did

crazykat 28-03-2009 02:00 PM

You did all you could do, you talked to them and was there for them. I am sure they appreciate that. I hope your friend is ok. Take care
Kat xxx

nomad 28-03-2009 07:37 PM

ty for those who took time to reply to me
and ty for those who jst read wot i had to say

my friend is ok
been chattin to them a bit this day
also i soent time chattin with their partner

this is kinda hard for me
but i keep goin for them

crazykat 29-03-2009 12:37 PM

Glad your friend is ok. It's great that you want to support your friend but make sure you look after your needs too. Take care
Kat xxx

nomad 30-03-2009 12:42 PM

sometimes i dont recognise my needs until afterwards .. when i feel kinda wasted
you know?
after i posted here on sat, things went downhill some more for my friend - but luckily it was the weekend so their partner was home, and i talked to them for a bit

supporting someone with depression has its tought times, but i do it cos i care
but this has drained me a lot

crazykat 30-03-2009 12:48 PM

Yeah I totally understand, sometimes we spend so much of our lives looking after everyone elses needs that we kinda forget our own needs. It is hard supporting someone who is going through a rough time and can be incredibly draining but remember its ok to need some time out for yourself too. Take care
Kat xxx

nomad 01-04-2009 08:39 PM

thank you Kat


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