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I haven't SI'd in four a half weeks and I thought I was doing great, then my eating issues began coming back and I now have my ED back again. It seems that when I dont SI I get my ED and then when I dont have my ED I SI. Its always one or the other, there is never a time where there is no SI or ED. I think that when I stopped SI'ing I didnt have any other way to release my feelings so my feelings manifested themselves iin the ED. Then when I start Si'ing again, the ED seems to go away. Does anyone else get this?

First of all, congratulations for going that length of time without self harming. You were doing great and it was a great achievement.

I tend to switch whatever "coping methods" I'm using-- not exactly the same, but similar.

Well done for not self injuring :)

I have the same type of problem as you. I used to have eating problems and was underweight, now that I haven't self harmed for a while I've started to have problems with food again. Are you receiving any help, like therapy? I think it's important to try to understand what drives you to be self destructive, because that's what they both are.

In a word, yes.
(Sorry, am in a low mood so my replies tend to be quite crappy)
My old old counsellor recognised this in me a couple of years ago- when i stopped self harming I started to starve myself. And then the starving stopped when I got back into self harming.
So yeah, pretty much the same (although I don't have an eating disorder as such, it's not as "severe" as that, just I restrict my calorie intake for a while).
Take care

I am getting therapy and I have been looking at some of the reasons why I am the way I am, but I still dont know why I seem to be self destructive. It might be because of the sexual abuse I suffered, but I think that I am over that now and it doesnt really bother me so I dont know why Im still getting mental health issues. It doesnt make sense, I dont know where it is coming from, but even if I did know where it was coming from that doesnt help me change the way I am and it doesnt make me better. I dont know how to get out of this way of being. I cant see a light.

yeah I understand completely I'm like that..