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Getting_There_Monkey 16-05-2008 11:06 PM

Counting or not counting?
 
I was just thinking today and was wondering, which do you prefer?

counting the days you have been selfharm free, or just not counting...

*not really sure how to phrase this*

so is counting better for you or not

Strawberry.Bananas 16-05-2008 11:13 PM

I'm not sure to be honest. I find that sometimes I go days without realising I've gone days and sometimes I count the days that I've been trying to stop and find it really difficult so yeah; it's hard to say.

Einmyria 16-05-2008 11:32 PM

i make a note of the last date when i get a few days in and when i feel like ive gone a long way i look at the date and see how long i made it. so im not directly counting to begin with but i can when i think ive got far enough that it feels like an achievement.

BarrelO'Crazy 16-05-2008 11:48 PM

I personally didn't count because for me if i'd gone X number of days and then SH'd i would have felt worse than if i just hadn't thought about it.

Behind the Smile 16-05-2008 11:54 PM

I count because I'm a number freak.
So if it's an even number of days, I can't cut under any circumstances which helps.

Ghostface 16-05-2008 11:57 PM

Not count. I've tried to count, and it only made me even more aware of my SI, and sometimes made me SI when I hadnt really thought about it all day.

Tig 17-05-2008 12:11 AM

I try to not count but I can't seem to help it :/

Stress Free Anxiety 17-05-2008 12:26 AM

I count months, which are just bigger units of days I guess. It's really helped me focus on recovery. Like a "I've already gone almost 5 months, why do it now?" sorta thing.

Detour. Derail 17-05-2008 01:02 AM

I tend to mark milestones in my diary.
1 week.
2 weeks
1 month
2 monthes
4 monthes...
you get the picture....
Although if im really struggling...I'll count each day...

-Shae-Lynn* 17-05-2008 01:49 AM

I count. COmpletly. I didn't used to. But now I am.

emily.ily9 17-05-2008 05:13 AM

i used to...made me feel good then.
but when i was really ready to start recovering for real, i stopped counting.
i don't know, it stopped working. just didn't seem to matter how long it'd been, more that i take each urge individually. dealing with the problems behind the urges was a lot better way for me to fight them then arguing with myself about how long it'd been.

yeadatonegurl 17-05-2008 07:38 AM

Me i count for the most part but dont do it till the week mark. Helps me to see i did without Si for one week maybe i can make it the next week without it as well. Also for me is sort of a celebration that so far i am making it especially if it has been a rough week.

snoopdragon 17-05-2008 07:12 PM

i used to count the days but i have stopped and it seems i can go longer without counting

Hope_Forever 17-05-2008 07:39 PM

I prefer to count, that way I know how many days I've been without SI

my inner battle 18-05-2008 03:47 PM

i count, think it helps, i write all over my self just to remind myself
then then i feel bad i write it were i want to hurt myself

=/

sounds stupid i know but hell works for me =]

Wonderland. 18-05-2008 03:50 PM

i wanna count but cant because it makes me even more triggered to do it.

one_step_closer 18-05-2008 04:11 PM

I like to count because I can see if i'm beating my previous 'records' it has really helped me to get to 9 months because every day that goes past you can think to yourself "i'm not self harming today and wasting all of those days free that I have already achieved." Once I had made it to 5 months there was no going back for me because that was the longest I had ever been.

Ami 18-05-2008 06:45 PM

got a ticker and think it helps because you can see the little thingy move each day closer to your target :)
x

xfallenangelx 18-05-2008 11:22 PM

each day i write in my diary howmany days...since day one and it is now 341! i think im going to try and stop counting when i hit a year xx

iriedanym 19-05-2008 06:06 AM

I counted the first couple of days, and now I'm more counting weeks.


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