Advice please...
 

*extremely brief mention of sexual assault*


Hi to anyone that takes the time to read this and reply..
The back story is that 4 years ago I was sexually assaulted and was nearly raped. Anyway now I'm at university and haven't actually told anyone here what happened but tomorrow (14/06/15) I plan on telling one of my really close friends at uni (Haley) what happened, I've told Haley that i really need to speak to her about something but haven't specified what. However tonight i found out from one of our best friends (Jess) that Haley's boyfriend (Fred) has cheated on her, however Jess has asked me not to tell Haley because Jess only found out via her boyfriend (Henry) who's best friends with Fred. So now I have to see Haley tomorrow and I am ok with telling her about what happened to me but I am worried about seeing her because I'm worried that I won't be able to look her in they eye knowing that her boyfriend has slept with someone else. Should I tell her even though Jess has told me not too? Because Jess has said that if I tell Haley then her and Henry's relationship will be over because she 'will have broke her trust'.
Either way I'm going to upset someone, because Haley will be upset of she finds out that I Knew about Fred cheating on her and not saying anything (which she has every right to) but then Jess will be upset if I tell Haley because that will potentially break her and James up.
If anyone could give me any advice then that would be great
Thanks x

Sorry to hear that you've found yourself with this dilemma, and I think it's pretty bad that Jess has put you in this position! Could you maybe speak to Jess and ask what she was expecting you to do with this information, if not tell Haley? Personally, I think I would tell Haley (and maybe let Jess know that I was going to do this and why), but that is just my personal opinion. What is your gut instinct on this?

On the topic of what you originally wanted to talk to her about, I hope it goes well when you do tell her and that she is supportive.

How did it go love?

Hi guys, thanks for the replies and advice :) I was extremely drunk when I wrote this so I'm surprised it made any sense haha! Anyway Jess ended up telling Hayley before because I told her how uncomfortable it made me feel knowing this information and not being able to tell her. And on the other matter, I didn't end up telling her because she had a lot of other things on her mind. Hopefully I'll tell her soon. Thanks again for the support guys x

I'm glad Jess told Hayley and avoided putting you in a difficult position.

I hope it goes well when you do decide to tell her about what happened to you.