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Hi,

My name is Dave. I introduced myself on the main site but thought I'd do it here too. I'm 43 so a little (or a lot!!!) older than a lot of people on this site I am guessing. Over the last 18 months my life has just fell apart so I definitely fall into the depression category.

My wife had a affair with her boss nearly 18 months ago. I found out about it and she went for the jugular. I am now living in rented accommodation and missing my two gorgeous kids (9 and 4) like mad. I see them as often as I can, every other weekend and a couple of time during the week, but can't seem to sit at home. The walls just keep closing in.

I'll never forget the look on my daughters face when I had to tell her I had to move out. Just holding her, both sobbing, broke my heart and will stay with me forever.

Anyway. As I say, I'm not sure what category I fall into but I just liked the title of the site... Lets hope I can recover my life. Anyone want to chat just drop me a line. I'm not miserable all the time... honest.

Good luck to you all.

Dave

Hello again Dave!!!! Hows it all going?

Hi Dave, welcome to RYL and to vets. I hope you find it helpful here. Please get in touch at any time. Take care.

Hi Dave
Welcome to VETS
It's nice to meet you :)

Hi Dave!
Nice to meet you and welcome to Vets.

Hi Dave
I'm 52 and just joined yesterday - yes and feeling rather old too.
I feel for you missing your beautiful children. I am blessed with a wonderful husband but I feel I have let him down terribly as I have gone into burning myself with a vengence because I don't feel good enough and supportive enough for him. his health has been a big worry for me over the last 2 years and everything has become too much
I'm glad you talked and cried with your daughter. She will know how you feel and it is not her fault that you have had to leave her.
My very best wishes
Love and hugs
Jane

hi dave

just read your post and it struck a chord with me on a load of different levels.

just wondered how you are doing now ? i know that feeling of the walls closing in mate - sorry - its horrid isnt it .

i know it probably wont help at this stage , but as i kiddie i went through the same experience your daughter went through and it never harmed my relationship with my dad- if anything it bought us so much closer together and i absolutely worship the ground he walks on now - so your probably worrying about it far more than you need to

but i know it hurts now mate - sorry :sad:

1 of the things that i have found that helps me with the utterly distressing thoughts is that i do a bit of running - it really seems to help and snaps me out (for a little while at least) of that soul destroying mindset .
could you maybe try a bit of running or jogging to help a little ?
it just seems to have helped me more than anything else i have tried

anyway i will leave you in a bit of peace now - notice your in stoke by the way :hehe:

hello from a fello stokie :yeah: - i'm not quite sure what that little yellow man is doing but i'll send you a smiley 1 too :-D