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Stellata 21-07-2010 04:36 PM

Ten + Reasons why Bullying IS Abuse - help needed to complete the list!
 
Help me make the 10, people. :) Add your reason below.

1. Someone wields their power over you to gain power for themselves and make you powerless and helpless in the face of them. They feel bigger and you feel smaller, humiliated and powerless.

long road 22-07-2010 01:11 PM

2. Bullying leaves you with a victim mentality, unable to see the good in yourself.

001100111 22-07-2010 02:22 PM

3. verbal abuse is just as painful as physical

4. people don't interfere when a peer is harming you, letting it continue for a long time.

Stellata 22-07-2010 06:16 PM

5. It often includes physical assault.

Schleier von Dunst 22-07-2010 07:03 PM

6. The long term effects that bullying can have will leave you scarred, often permanently.

Nonesuch Solo 22-07-2010 07:19 PM

"Bullying" is just an easier word for children to say than "harrassment." They're exactly the same behavior, only as you get older you should know better.

Schleier von Dunst 22-07-2010 07:27 PM

8. A person who is being bullied is a human as much as the abuser.

Stellata 22-07-2010 07:47 PM

1. Someone wields their power over you to gain power for themselves and make you powerless and helpless in the face of them. They feel bigger and you feel smaller, humiliated and powerless.

2. Bullying leaves you with a victim mentality, unable to see the good in yourself.

3. Verbal abuse is just as painful as physical.

4. People don't interfere when a peer is harming you, letting it continue for a long time.

5. It often includes physical assault.

6. The long term effects that bullying can have will leave you scarred, often permanently.

7. "Bullying" is just an easier word for children to say than "harrassment." They're exactly the same behavior, only as you get older you should know better.

8. A person who is being bullied is a human as much as the abuser. [the abused? - can you clarify? Thanks. :)]

Schleier von Dunst 22-07-2010 08:07 PM

Any victim, be it of bullying or abuse, is human and deserves certain rights. The abuser is also human and should respect these rights. I counted bullies as abusers.

Hope that made more sense, sorry :-)

Stellata 22-07-2010 08:08 PM

Yep, that makes sense, thanks. :)

001100111 24-07-2010 02:25 AM

9. Bullying can lead to depression later in life.
10. In older years, it escalates into physical harassment and direct attacks.
11. With the "wonders" of the internet, bulling can become learning the victims every personal secrete in an effort to humiliate them and possible prevent them from being able to move on beyond.

Stellata 24-07-2010 07:24 AM

1. Someone wields their power over you to gain power for themselves and make you powerless and helpless in the face of them. They feel bigger and you feel smaller, humiliated and powerless.

2. Bullying leaves you with a victim mentality, unable to see the good in yourself.

3. Verbal abuse is just as painful as physical.

4. People don't interfere when a peer is harming you, letting it continue for a long time.

5. It often includes physical assault.

6. The long term effects that bullying can have will leave you scarred, often permanently.

7. "Bullying" is just an easier word for children to say than "harassment." They're exactly the same behavior, only as you get older you should know better.

8. A person who is being bullied is a human as much as the abuser.

9. Bullying can lead to depression later in life. It can also cause post traumatic disorder, particularly with extreme hyper-vigilance in certain cases.

10. In older years, it escalates into physical harassment and direct attacks.

11. With the "wonders" of the internet, bullying can become learning the victims every personal secret in an effort to humiliate them and possible prevent them from being able to move on beyond.

I added a part to the depression one, I hope you don't mind. :)

We can of course keep the list going - 10 is not a set-in-stone limit by any means! We have 11 already!

akita 24-07-2010 09:10 AM

12. It can leave you scarred for life.

Grrr.... 24-07-2010 03:14 PM

13. It hurts.

hidingme 24-07-2010 03:54 PM

14. there is absolutely no reason for it. nothing is done to intentionally cause it. people are just mean.

Schleier von Dunst 24-07-2010 08:57 PM

15. It is often the same people who bully a person each time... as I'm led to believe, an abuser is generally the same person each time.

Sleepless123 24-07-2010 09:27 PM

Hey i think this thread was a really good idea!Thanks for starting it.

i have two.My first one though especially is a bit similar to what some youve already got.

16 Bullying can really damage and dent somebodys own self perception.They may never recover from that or believe in themselves as much again.

17 Bullying can restrict peoples lifes and activities for instance bullying may make people too scared and frightened to go to places like their school/college/workplace or even to go out at all depending on the circumstances.

long road 24-07-2010 10:08 PM

not sure if this enough to be a number

Bullies scare their victims into not saying anything, so do abusers.

Schleier von Dunst 24-07-2010 10:19 PM

^ yeah, that's a number :-)

Gone. 24-07-2010 11:27 PM

Bullying is unforgettable. It causes you to break off who you are and how you meet people as you often distance yourself for fear of getting hurt which, in fact, only serves to end up hurting you just as much in the long-run. It's a viscous cycle.

Bullying alters your belief system. You are blinded by what others say to try and convince you as to the positives of your personality as it just doesn't 'fit' with what you think and you believe. You're setting yourself up for a fall, every single time.

(Don't know if those make sense or are repeating what others have said, I did check but apologies in advance just in case!) :)


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