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discovery_journey 14-03-2010 10:37 PM

BPD & Not being able to stick to things
 
I don't know about any of you guys, but I have real trouble in sticking to things.

I always start off doing stuff and get bored/lose interest or burn out. Or I'll have a new, really amazing idea and decide I should do that instead.

I've only just realised this is a feature of bpd - doh!!

anyone got any advice as to how to deal with it?

I'm like it with all sorts in my life... hobbies, domestic chores, career decisions. It's a total nightmare!

Really, seriously. Any advice, I'd appreciate it.

Ta
xx

Teddy.Lupin 14-03-2010 11:17 PM

I know what you mean. My friends are at uni, but due to my inability to stick to anything, I'm still trying to complete college. I can't stick to anything, even my name and gender identity.
My whole life is affected by it too. I don't really have much advice apart from sometimes it's ok to change your mind.

discovery_journey 14-03-2010 11:30 PM

It doesn't feel ok to change my mind though.

I feel like an idiot when friends/family ask what are you doing atm? and I always say, oh I'm doing something different now...

I'm 36. I'm tired of not knowing my left from my right.

elephant poo 15-03-2010 01:44 AM

I didn't know that this was a symtom of BPD, I just assumed it was a personality quirk!
I'm the same as you.... if I need to be doing somthing for more than 15 minutes or so, it will most likely lay half finnished. Which is why one of the tips I use, it to try and keep things short and sweet. If I know it's just going to take 10 minutes - like loading the dishwasher- I can usually just get on with it, because you know it's not going to get to long winded. If it's somthing thats going to take a bit of time - like having to clean all of the windows in your house, then I split it up, and set small targets, like clean 2 windows, then you can stop and make a cuppa and have a break for a while. I tend to stick at things a bit longer by doing it this way, and if I do quit, I feel like I have put in a bit of effort, which makes it feel a bit less like quitting, which in turn makes me more likely to give it another go! :)

Hope you find somthing that works for you, you just have to kep trying.


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