aaaaaaargh! *adult*
 

i feel so awful for posting as it has been forever since i last posted. but i really really need help. i don't know what to do. this is going to be really long and i'm sorry, but i need to get this off my chest.

the other night our flat had a party, everyone was drinking and stuff, all was going well, we were all buzzing, and then at the end of the party me and one of my flat mates were just chilling out in his room chatting (and as we are mates this is normal) and then out of the blue he tried to kiss me so i pushed him away and the next thing i knew he had pushed me onto his bed and he forced himself upon me. i told him no, i didnt want to. but he told me to shush and chill and that no-one needed to know but us. so again i said no, its wrong, we are flatmates and i dont want to. but he wouldn't listen, he said i wasnt going anywhere and neither was he, and we were gonna have sex. so i got really angry pushed him off me and he kept trying to grab me so i pushed him and he pretty much just passed out on his bed cos he was so wasted and i ran to my room.

now i feel so sick and disgusting. i don't know what to do. i've been hiding in my room for 2 days. how am i meant to face him. i've heard him an his mates going past my room saying is she gonna sulk in there all weekend. im not sulking i can't face him. im shaking and feel sick. i have to face him at some point. we live together. he's acting like its my fault. i did nothing to lead him on nothing. and yet he can hold his head high and right now i just want to cut. i want to die. im a mess. i must deserve this. maybe it is my fault.

i really don't know what to do

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh :ermm:

you dont deserve it at all! it was him and it s no excuse that he was drunk, i would be scared and shaky too if i was in your situation so i dont there is anything wrong with feeling how you are feeling at the moment! im sorry it happened to you *hugs*
x

it's not your fault at all, let's be serious.
he as wasted and all that.maybe he doesn't even remember.
i experienced this too (well,it was a bit different) and the guy didn't remember what happened entirely.

*hugs* that would really bother me too. i'm sorry it happened. him being drunk is no excuse. if he gets like that drunk, he has no business touching alcohol. Do you think he'd hurt you sober? If not, then maybe just casually be around him, but never when he's drunk again. Maybe just try and talk to him or even not mention it but always be on your guard. Is there anyone you can tell (if you haven't)?

But if you think he'd actually hurt you sober, then you need to move. What are your options for getting new roommates? Would you be able to kick him out or would you have to leave yourself? You deserve to not live in fear. If he's acting like it's your fault, that may be a sign you need to get out. But you are NOT overreacting and I totally get why you would feel so afraid and upset. And you should not feel disgusting, you did nothing wrong. Feel free to pm me if you ever need to talk.

I would be shaking and upset too if I were you. That's a horrible situation to be put through. Being drunk is no excuse, especially if after he complains that you're sulking after. Have you told anyone close to you?

wow...wow... A guy should never do that no matter if he is drunk or not. It's never an excuse. It is not wrong that you are tramatised. I would be too.

Have you told anyone in the real world about this?