griddlebone
23-05-2013, 01:28 PM
Oh hai,
I have been debating for the past week or so whether to make this thread because I don't want it to turn into 'why liv is a crap mod who cant do her job' or similar. But after receiving a number of really quite abusive/rude PMs now from a number of different members I thought it might just be easier to make a thread.
If you have ever PMd me before its probably fallen into 2 different camps, either you get a reply straight away or you dont get a reply and you have to send me a PM again. Its very likely that your PM falls into the second camp, but I would like to make it clear that I dont read the PM and think 'what a stupid message/Im not going to deal with it/stupid members' etc which is what has been inferred in the last few PMs I have received.
The majority of the time if I know Im super busy I wont open the PM until I have some time, so it sits and waits for a bit until I get a spare few hours, this usually works ok. Every now and again I will open a PM and then have something more pressing that needs doing such as kicking someone in chat and so on and those are the PMs that usually get forgotten.
Most of the PMs I get complaining about this are from members who have given me a day to respond. I should probably make it clear now that for about 95% of PMs I get, youre looking at at least 2 days for a response, unless its super urgent and by urgent I mean mass flaming or trolls posting porn or so on, in which case please title the PM with an 'urgent' or similar.
Even more perplexing is the PMs I receive telling me I dont care because I have taken the issue to the mods and were discussing it and I havent got back witha response. Its very very disheartening to get PMs accusing me of not caring,because I do otherwise a.I wouldnt be here modding and b. I wouldnt stick around when every day I get some lovely abuse.
I said in a thread a little while ago how much work we have to do and we still do,that hasnt changed in the week or so since I posted that. Im also head of chat which means that I get double the amount of PMs I used to get. In the last hour or so I have got 10 PMs, average about 30 a day....you can see my predicament if I ever want a life outside of here!
So what I am trying to say is:
1. I realise that to some people RYL really is your world, I get it,Im not judging, however if I dont reply to your PM in 24 is doesnt mean that your RYL world is going to fall apart, just ignore the issue until I can get to it.
2.Please dont assume that I dont care, trust me I do.
3.If you send me an abusive PM I will send you a scathing response and then I will ignore PMs from you although I will deal with the issues because thats my job.Manners cost you nothing and Im not your slave.
4.If you dont hear back from me in a few day, just rePM me. I would like to think that most people dont think Im a bad mod because I dont reply but if you do then you can send harley a PM.
5. If you track me down on FB (happens a lot) I will be very unhappy and you will know about it. You PM me here, my life outside is separate and I dont appreciate ever getting PMs on FB from random strangers from RYL.
6. Calling me names makes me sad,like it would make you sad.I tend to run away when people do that so its probably counter productive for everyone.
Im going to go answer some PMs now, so if you have messaged me recently yay for you!
I hope this thread makes sense, it made a lot more in my head.Woe!
Liv.
xx
I have been debating for the past week or so whether to make this thread because I don't want it to turn into 'why liv is a crap mod who cant do her job' or similar. But after receiving a number of really quite abusive/rude PMs now from a number of different members I thought it might just be easier to make a thread.
If you have ever PMd me before its probably fallen into 2 different camps, either you get a reply straight away or you dont get a reply and you have to send me a PM again. Its very likely that your PM falls into the second camp, but I would like to make it clear that I dont read the PM and think 'what a stupid message/Im not going to deal with it/stupid members' etc which is what has been inferred in the last few PMs I have received.
The majority of the time if I know Im super busy I wont open the PM until I have some time, so it sits and waits for a bit until I get a spare few hours, this usually works ok. Every now and again I will open a PM and then have something more pressing that needs doing such as kicking someone in chat and so on and those are the PMs that usually get forgotten.
Most of the PMs I get complaining about this are from members who have given me a day to respond. I should probably make it clear now that for about 95% of PMs I get, youre looking at at least 2 days for a response, unless its super urgent and by urgent I mean mass flaming or trolls posting porn or so on, in which case please title the PM with an 'urgent' or similar.
Even more perplexing is the PMs I receive telling me I dont care because I have taken the issue to the mods and were discussing it and I havent got back witha response. Its very very disheartening to get PMs accusing me of not caring,because I do otherwise a.I wouldnt be here modding and b. I wouldnt stick around when every day I get some lovely abuse.
I said in a thread a little while ago how much work we have to do and we still do,that hasnt changed in the week or so since I posted that. Im also head of chat which means that I get double the amount of PMs I used to get. In the last hour or so I have got 10 PMs, average about 30 a day....you can see my predicament if I ever want a life outside of here!
So what I am trying to say is:
1. I realise that to some people RYL really is your world, I get it,Im not judging, however if I dont reply to your PM in 24 is doesnt mean that your RYL world is going to fall apart, just ignore the issue until I can get to it.
2.Please dont assume that I dont care, trust me I do.
3.If you send me an abusive PM I will send you a scathing response and then I will ignore PMs from you although I will deal with the issues because thats my job.Manners cost you nothing and Im not your slave.
4.If you dont hear back from me in a few day, just rePM me. I would like to think that most people dont think Im a bad mod because I dont reply but if you do then you can send harley a PM.
5. If you track me down on FB (happens a lot) I will be very unhappy and you will know about it. You PM me here, my life outside is separate and I dont appreciate ever getting PMs on FB from random strangers from RYL.
6. Calling me names makes me sad,like it would make you sad.I tend to run away when people do that so its probably counter productive for everyone.
Im going to go answer some PMs now, so if you have messaged me recently yay for you!
I hope this thread makes sense, it made a lot more in my head.Woe!
Liv.
xx