How Suicide Affects Those Around You
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Are you thinking about suicide? Thinking about how, if you killed yourself, nobody would care?
Think again.
If you kill yourself you will change somebodies world. That's right. They will see everything differently. Just hearing your name will burn their mind with memores. They wont be able to go near where you lived, even your town will hold memories. Listening to the radio they'll hear that song, remember,that song you sang with them once? They'll step past your locker every day and wonder why you are not there. Why are you not there??
Do you want to be responsible for your family members, the people who love you, crying every night? For your sisters or brothers losing part of who they are? Your suicide is going to effect most deeply those who care about you most. That's not right. One of your friends may break down, and just like you, their world will be dark. The pain you are in is awful, but why pass it on to hundreds of people around you, when you could try your hardest to work through it?
Your family will be paranoid. Suddenly everyone will be talking about them. Do you want to be known as 'the kid who killed themselves?' People you never knew will be crying when they hear what you've done. Yes, they will be effected. Everyone around you will stop and think ;; "was there something i could have done?" Suddenly the people of your world are dying with guilt. All those little hints you gave, they'll remember them. Oh yes, and it will torture them all the time.
Your friends will think of suicide. Your closest friends are likely to go into a depression like the one that claimed your life. How will they cope, without you? This will break them, for the rest of their lives. And lets not forget the people who will plan your funeral. Your closest friends and family picking out songs for you, photos of you. Crying all the night before, and all the day of your funeral. And all the night after. In fact, they will cry now more than you ever did. Could they have saved you?
They'll be angry. Oh yes. Why didn't you tell them? They loved you. And now it's too late. They'll be angry with you because they know, they know you could have gotten through it. Then they'll be angry with themselves because they may have been able to save you if only they knew.
And one day, one day years from now, they'll remember you. They will all still remember you. The girl that sat up the front of your class; she'll remember you. The bus driver you saw every morning; he'll remember you. That little girl you sat with on the bus once, The kid you leant money to at the shop, all your siblings friends, the people that you dont see, but that see you everyday they will all remember you. And every single one of them will wonder; why?
But imagine your family.
You are part of them. Without you, something is missing. If you killed yourself then part of them dies too. They are incomplete. Every family gathering will be missing something. The photos on the wall are suddenly all cold reminders of what you did.
Who goes through your bedroom? Who cleans out your locker? Who calls the school to tell them one of their students has died? .. Who tells the students? Who calls the funeral directors? Who arranges a coffin for you? Who calls your best friend to tell them you're dead??
Who finds you?
Please, there are other ways out. I know sometimes the struggle is very, very hard. But it's not worth giving up on life. Life is all we have, life is everything. Its the beautiful moments, and the sad ones. Please, don't give up on all those around you. You can make it through.
My teacher said this about her father, who commited suicide: "I understand that the pain is overwhelming, but I will never forgive him for the pain he has caused others. It was just selfish. If you kill yourself you spread the suffering among thousands of people, it doesn't only affect those around you but everyone who has ever come in contact with you."
Please, keep fighting. You can get through this and see that there is life after what you're facing now. It may be hard, but you'll get there, and when you do you will appreciate it so much more. I understand that most people know that suicide effects others, but please keep this in mind if you're ever feeling so low. Give people the chance to help you.
Much Love.
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tbh as i read this all i thought about was now im suicidal i obv don't care bout how it will effect the others n my life i just wanna end my misery and if suicide is a selfish act then u have to come to terms with someone who is suicidal will be selfish so y would this article work?
See I agree with Facet, it sounds like the writer of this article is suffering because someone they knew comitted suicide...so to state that the people who are suicidal are selfish is just that, their own opinion.
Yes, it will affect other people around you. It's just like when someone moves away...but that person can still contact them and talk to them...even when a person is dead you can still contact them and talk to them - you may not get an answer back but it might help you.
My mother committed suicide when I was 12 years thus ending any hope I had of being reunited with her when I turned 18 because, yes I was adopted...at age 5 and hadn't seen her since...now I will never be able to get a picture of her and me together my last picture of her and me was when I was 5 years old.
Being in the military, I found myself more alone then I initially had thought myself to be and was very suicidal but I lacked the guts...at that time I KNOW no one would have been sad or depressed over my death. My adopted parents would have thrown a party saying, "yay, the she-devil satan spawned is finally dead!" and friends i had known but never really stayed in contact with would have been sad but moved on...so don't sit there and preach about how selfish it is.
Obviously something is wrong and one thinks nothing can be changed or helped plus I'd rather spend an enternity with my mother in the afterlife then another day in this world all alone.
I really dislike when people say it's selfish for those suffering with a chronic mental illness to take their own lie (and yes, I have had friends commit suicide, but I didn't hold it against them). If it's something like situational anxiety or depression, sure, the person might be able to get through it. But when it's chronic, just like a physical illness, it's selfish of the other people to expect the individual to keep on being utterly miserable jsut so they don't have to deal with their death. The "selfishness"doesn't belong solely to the suicidal person.
This just makes me feel a lot worse. It makes feel bad because I'm selfish to try and take my life. I have survived three suicide attempts but I never thought of the consequences... now I do. Thank you
This is right, my cousin killed himself and he's not the first in my family either. Slowly but surely my family is falling to pieces, its killing each and every one of us insde. There wil always be someone who'll miss you.
this is all true. a friend of mine committed suicide just this passed october.
I already know all this...but it just makes me even more suicidal for being so selfish.
this made me cry -which isnt particularly hard these days.
i guess i never thought of so many people like that.
thanks
thankyou
wow that was something! it helped me lots,thank you =)
Thanks for posting, and this has saved my life several times.
This has saved my life so many times. And a part of me hates that.
i told this 2 my friend who would think adout suicide she cryed and told me she wouldnt die of suicide that she loved me 2 much
Thank you someone one chat sent it to me and this help so much. im the kind of person who will never judge you i look at both veiw and will always under stand. i understand the people that say noone will miss you and the hurt will only last a fration of how much hurt you have to feel and i agree with every oppionion, but do you realy want to cauz that person hurt even just the little hurt it will cauz them???? I think thats the real question how about you?
this made me cry -which isnt particularly hard these days. but really epople would be better off withoit me. im suree of it
I go through phases of thinking that suicide is just my own escapism but when I'm in a depression, it seems the only way out, as if nobody cares. Maybe that's just the illness. I talk to people and don't get help. Suicide seems so logical at times. Makes me feel so guilty to think of the impact on others. Maybe that's the point - if I feel condemned enough I won't kill myself? If I honestly thought that someone cared then I wouldn't end my life but there seems more to suicide than that. People that care still can't take away my pain.
This has saved my life so many times. i printed this page out and stuck it in my binder by my bed. Every time i feel suicidal, i read this. And then i realize that i love my friends too much that i could never do that to them. Thank you!
This is so powerful..
ok, for people who are saying that people will move on after someone they knew someone who comittied suicide, im not saying your wrong but its deffinatley not true in my case. my cousin who i barely knew comitted suicide and i still havent moved on. im asking myself all the time so many questions that will never be answered. and the world wouldnt be better if you did commit suicide. It would just hurt it more. =/
I disagree. It may hurt the people close to me, but they will move on. My suffering is forever...their's would be temporary
thank you for adding this!!
I have survived two suicides and understand what you mean. However, the SOM means that you (ie the suicidal person) BELIEVE that the world will be better without you. Reading something like this when suicidal can and for me has made that more certain. You are right that it will hurt people, but they will move on AND THEY WILL BE BETTER OFF.
that was amazing.
it was so true.
i guess i never thought of so many people like that.
thankyou.
Thanks you. this has saved me so many times, times when im feeling very low i look at this and it makes me think.... Thanks again!
And think of the mess.
i guess most people just dont think
This might work for someone who still haven't thought about this, but it certainly didn't work for me in any way. There's more to life than what people think and feel about you.
I feel so Moved by this. it helped me move on.
I trully agree with this article. My grandpa died by suicide. He was depressed and lost his wife 3yrs ago. Many questions come across one mind. Why did someone do it. Why didn't they talk to someone.
wow! so powerful.
thank you