Suicide? Things To Consider
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1) Can you really say that life is going to be this terrible forever? NO! You can't decide at 16 that life isn't worth living. You can't decide at 60 that life isn't worth living. Life is what you make of it, don't just give up. Never give up.
2) Think of the people you'll leave behind. No, not the people who 'hate' you and 'want you dead', but the people who actually GIVE a ****. Think of the people who tried every day to make you happy, think how **** they'll feel. Oh, you won't be able to care, you'll be too DEAD to notice. Why would you WANT to inflict the sense of guilt and failure on anybody...Isn't that part of what drove you to ending it anyway?
3) Life will get better Always. Bad things happen to everyone, some people deal at the time, others let it build up and then have a merry nervous breakdown. But even when you're at the bottom of that spiralling heap of crap, you can get back up. It is a noted fact that the most turbulent time of any person's life is the adolescent years between 12-20. And how old are the majority of people on this site?
4) Why do you want to die? Seriously, why? Is it a cry for help? Then go to your doctor or write someone you trust and want help from a letter explaining how you feel. You don't have to tell anyone you cut or burn and hate yourself if you don't want to.
Is it to get back at the people who hurt you? You can't get revenge on anyone from the grave. It is far more satisfying and positive to take revenge in some other way.
Do you want to see them crying from the afterlife so you get the satisfaction of knowing too late that someone gave a damn? First, consider your religious beliefs. In ye olde days it was believed that those who killed themselves could not go to heaven and they were not allowed to be buried on holy ground (a secondary point, you could be put to death for attempted suicide in the early 1800s...). So, whereas you may feel that to make them love you, you have to die, how are you going to know they love you? Do you think you'll go to heaven, will you simply rot in the ground, do you believe in reincarnation? If there is any kind of afterlife you can watch those you tried to hurt, mourn then you are still going to be a concious being. Isn't that what you're trying to avoid?
Is it because you can't cope with the pain anymore? Then go to the doctor and get yourself something to HELP. No, meds aren't for everyone, neither is counselling, but depression is medical it's not something that can easily be controlled from within. Seeking medical help does not make you weak, when you are on the verge of death because you don't feel you can cope. Doctor's will not always look at you strangely. Psychiatrists, CPNs, counsellors and psychologists see people just like you every week. You are not an anomaly.
5) Is it worth it? I mean, imagine if it doesn't work and you have to cope with everyone asking if you're OK for the next 5 years. Or your parents hiding up all the tablets and razors in the house, so you can't even get some medication for a HEADACHE. Then there's suicide counselling, lasting scars, the possibility of long term liver/kidney damage. The possiblity of brain damage. Did you know you can take a lot of paracetemol with no effect and then can drop into a vegatitive state with no warning? Many people I have known (myself included) who have attempted, or started to kill themselves have regretted it deeply afterwards.
Basically, a lot of annoying ****ing fuss. And then nobody knows what to say to you, l how they should approach you, whether you'll go off on one.
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Just think about it. There's so much to gain through living even when you've got nothing to lose.
And if you're wondering about my own experience, my brother has tried to kill himself at least twice and everytime the people who have suffered has been US. That was 4 years ago, and now he doesn't want to die. He wants to live, to cope...and I have never seen anyone as depressed as he was.
It takes guts to face your problems, courage you may have forgotten you have. Death may seem the easy way out, the ONLY way out, but it's not. Death comes to us all in the end, why rush it?
Stay alive.
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This article is very intimidating... I suppose a lot of it is true in some sense, and it will be helpful to some people, but I feel like I was just yelled at by a teacher. No I DON'T want to inflict guilt or sadness on anybody!
This is tough. But inspiring...in a way.
Thanks now I'm triggered, maybe it shouldv'e had a trigger warning ...
Suicide is not the easy way out and in no way selfish, it is a last attempt at peace and unless you've personally been suicidal and have been so depressed youve wanted to or actually tried to kill yourself you shouldn't talk about because you know nothing. Have you had constant voices in your head telling you that you don't even deserve to live and have been so numb and empty you'll do anything to make it go away because you've had no escape so you decide to sacrifice your life for peace. Have you spent every night crying yourself to sleep and dreaming if dying because it's your only comfort, if you don't know what that feels like don't give advice on it. I've been suicidal for years and I know that it is not the easy way out and our aim isn't to make everyone around us sad but to try to kill the monster on the inside.
What a joke
This is kind of terrible. I mean in a way it’s helpful, but some of it’s a bit too harsh. This could actually trigger people.
This is actually MUCH more triggering and insulting to a suicidal person. Placing the blame on someone feeling suicidal only makes the person feel worse about him or herself which will increase the depression. These were good points, but they were much too harsh.
insulting, but true. maybe you should've rewrote it.
made me feel way worse.... thanks a million
that article is just patronising
yeah, made me feel WORSE. it is insulting, and some parts seem just plain innapropriate.
this is fucking insulting. I just rejoined this website and now I'm leaving.
"Also think of who's going to have to clean your brains off the ceiling, or your blood out of the bath tub. Think of how traumatizing it would be for everyone that cared."....nice. Just to let you know, the forensic team or the police would do it. Especially when your plan isnt even in your house.
makes u think a bit!
For some reason this made me angry
instead of making me feel better.
its a little mean, the way these things are said
Once I tried to kill myself and nobody even noticed. So the next 5 years weren't of that worry, there were of noone caring all over again. But great articel.
i like in your face articles like this that just lay it out. wish i read this a couple of years ago. might at least have made me continue to re-consider options but if it happens again ill be sure to re-read this 1st much love xxx
Food for thought .
this is really good
To the people who said and will say that this article is too late to help:
You came looking...so it can't be too late.
And it's nice to see an article that explains the facts strongly. Strong love.
thank you.
thats really good - but I am still having these thoughts. I am sick and tired of stuff. I don't know what to believe or do anymore.
i'm too far gone to be helped, but it was a really touching and deep article, i admire your courage to open up your heart like that...
i'm really sorry to say that i read that and still feel the same. i've read so many things like that because i've had so many thoughts and now they're seeming to not have any affect anymore...
wow thank you for saying "it takes guts to face your problems, courage you may have forgotten you have." (sry I can't quote the article correctly from my phone). anyway this sentence helped me so much just now! I wrote it down so I can remember it!! thank you!
Also think of who's going to have to clean your brains off the ceiling, or your blood out of the bath tub. Think of how traumatizing it would be for everyone that cared.
the end is so final, your a long time dead
a good article
Made me think - thank you.
Wow, thats profound.