sheepish - December 10, 2013 tbh as i read this all i thought about was now im suicidal i obv don't care bout how it will effect the others n my life i just wanna end my misery and if suicide is a selfish act then u have to come to terms with someone who is suicidal will be selfish so y would this article work?
BrokenRaven - February 5, 2013 See I agree with Facet, it sounds like the writer of this article is suffering because someone they knew comitted suicide...so to state that the people who are suicidal are selfish is just that, their own opinion.
Yes, it will affect other people around you. It's just like when someone moves away...but that person can still contact them and talk to them...even when a person is dead you can still contact them and talk to them - you may not get an answer back but it might help you.
My mother committed suicide when I was 12 years thus ending any hope I had of being reunited with her when I turned 18 because, yes I was adopted...at age 5 and hadn't seen her since...now I will never be able to get a picture of her and me together my last picture of her and me was when I was 5 years old.
Being in the military, I found myself more alone then I initially had thought myself to be and was very suicidal but I lacked the guts...at that time I KNOW no one would have been sad or depressed over my death. My adopted parents would have thrown a party saying, "yay, the she-devil satan spawned is finally dead!" and friends i had known but never really stayed in contact with would have been sad but moved on...so don't sit there and preach about how selfish it is.
Obviously something is wrong and one thinks nothing can be changed or helped plus I'd rather spend an enternity with my mother in the afterlife then another day in this world all alone.
Facet - August 11, 2012 I really dislike when people say it's selfish for those suffering with a chronic mental illness to take their own lie (and yes, I have had friends commit suicide, but I didn't hold it against them). If it's something like situational anxiety or depression, sure, the person might be able to get through it. But when it's chronic, just like a physical illness, it's selfish of the other people to expect the individual to keep on being utterly miserable jsut so they don't have to deal with their death. The "selfishness"doesn't belong solely to the suicidal person.
SophiaBlue647 - August 3, 2012 This just makes me feel a lot worse. It makes feel bad because I'm selfish to try and take my life. I have survived three suicide attempts but I never thought of the consequences... now I do. Thank you
prettylittleliar. - March 6, 2011 This is right, my cousin killed himself and he's not the first in my family either. Slowly but surely my family is falling to pieces, its killing each and every one of us insde. There wil always be someone who'll miss you.
laurenlovesdecember - January 4, 2011 this is all true. a friend of mine committed suicide just this passed october.
In_The_Darkness - August 25, 2010 I already know all this...but it just makes me even more suicidal for being so selfish.
8yearsofthis - April 10, 2010 this made me cry -which isnt particularly hard these days.
i guess i never thought of so many people like that.
thanks
thankyou
BelleRaven - December 26, 2009 wow that was something! it helped me lots,thank you =)
yutingyuting123 - December 9, 2009 Thanks for posting, and this has saved my life several times.
FoolForYou - August 29, 2009 This has saved my life so many times. And a part of me hates that.
sweeetheart5 - August 11, 2009 i told this 2 my friend who would think adout suicide she cryed and told me she wouldnt die of suicide that she loved me 2 much
sweeetheart5 - June 19, 2009 Thank you someone one chat sent it to me and this help so much. im the kind of person who will never judge you i look at both veiw and will always under stand. i understand the people that say noone will miss you and the hurt will only last a fration of how much hurt you have to feel and i agree with every oppionion, but do you realy want to cauz that person hurt even just the little hurt it will cauz them???? I think thats the real question how about you?
nightmare - April 20, 2009 this made me cry -which isnt particularly hard these days. but really epople would be better off withoit me. im suree of it
mitiog - December 8, 2008 I go through phases of thinking that suicide is just my own escapism but when I'm in a depression, it seems the only way out, as if nobody cares. Maybe that's just the illness. I talk to people and don't get help. Suicide seems so logical at times. Makes me feel so guilty to think of the impact on others. Maybe that's the point - if I feel condemned enough I won't kill myself? If I honestly thought that someone cared then I wouldn't end my life but there seems more to suicide than that. People that care still can't take away my pain.
Vicky5621 - December 7, 2008 This has saved my life so many times. i printed this page out and stuck it in my binder by my bed. Every time i feel suicidal, i read this. And then i realize that i love my friends too much that i could never do that to them. Thank you!
Schweigsame Seele - September 29, 2008 This is so powerful..
Damaged_Gracie - August 30, 2008 ok, for people who are saying that people will move on after someone they knew someone who comittied suicide, im not saying your wrong but its deffinatley not true in my case. my cousin who i barely knew comitted suicide and i still havent moved on. im asking myself all the time so many questions that will never be answered. and the world wouldnt be better if you did commit suicide. It would just hurt it more. =/
T.J. - June 15, 2008 I disagree. It may hurt the people close to me, but they will move on. My suffering is forever...their's would be temporary
KrissyInterupted - June 9, 2008 thank you for adding this!!
Kahlia1981 - June 5, 2008 I have survived two suicides and understand what you mean. However, the SOM means that you (ie the suicidal person) BELIEVE that the world will be better without you. Reading something like this when suicidal can and for me has made that more certain. You are right that it will hurt people, but they will move on AND THEY WILL BE BETTER OFF.
kaitliin_94 - May 6, 2008 that was amazing.
it was so true.
i guess i never thought of so many people like that.
thankyou.
all-hope.lost-forever - May 5, 2008 Thanks you. this has saved me so many times, times when im feeling very low i look at this and it makes me think.... Thanks again!
Voyeurism - April 25, 2008 And think of the mess.
...howl - April 23, 2008 i guess most people just dont think
Some Kind Of Monster - April 22, 2008 This might work for someone who still haven't thought about this, but it certainly didn't work for me in any way. There's more to life than what people think and feel about you.
bubbles12444 - April 17, 2008 I feel so Moved by this. it helped me move on.
TripleH - April 16, 2008 I trully agree with this article. My grandpa died by suicide. He was depressed and lost his wife 3yrs ago. Many questions come across one mind. Why did someone do it. Why didn't they talk to someone.
scissors82 - April 16, 2008 wow! so powerful.
thank you
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cornish andi - January 8, 2011 I think this article is really good too. The following few days after mine I felt as though it had all been a really bad dream. It was then an awful feeling to realise that it had actually happened. Thanks for posting this article
psychodarko - March 8, 2010 it was a little too public for me to return to my old life i still get evil looks day after day...small place close comunity id be supprised if there was even 1 person that didnt know
human.waste - July 29, 2009 I don't think you get better after that, with me wasn't possible to return to the olfd life and pretend it was ok with me, that my attempt stayed in the past...it still follow me...everyday...
human.waste - July 29, 2009 I don't think you get better after that, with me wasn't possible to return to the olf life and pretend it was ok with me, that my attemp was ini in
human.waste - July 29, 2009 I don't think you get better after that, and it
[crazy]girl - March 9, 2009 i wish i saw this article last year
3 inches from the edge - June 7, 2008 Thanks a lot for sharing this, it's very helpful to read ...
Recovery is possible....
TC xx
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midnight-star - July 17, 2012 Thanks for this, very useful
*ana's-broken-play-thing* - April 15, 2008 Thank you for this article, I felt a lot of support from it. I have been in the situation where I am trying to talk down a suicidal friend multiple times, and I always wonder if I am doing the right thing, and if I am a bad person because I can'r help. It is definitely a draining experience, especially when I am dealing with major depression right now myself. Again, thank you, it is nice to feel like someone understands.
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claws - May 5, 2013 i feel i have to go it doesnt mean i care less for those who know i care for them it just seems imposibole to move forward when i cant escape the threat
Facet - August 11, 2012 The whole peirmanent solution to a temporary problem thing...if you have a chronic mental illness as opposed to a situational depression, etc, then it is by no means a temporary problem.
[?]Rebel[!] - April 26, 2011 practice make perfect ;]
[?]Rebel[!] - April 26, 2011 yup this article is right suicide is impossbile i fail at it but ill carry on
[?]Rebel[!] - April 26, 2011 its a very good and persuasive article but nothing will stop me from trying
In_The_Darkness - August 25, 2010 Also, if I became paralyzed I'd still keep trying.
In_The_Darkness - August 25, 2010 "YOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AT LIFE, IF YOU DECIDE TO KILL YOURSELF THERE IS NO COMING BACK" Yes. And I've already fucked it up. Guilt trips just don't work. They make me feel worse.
etreindre_moi - May 29, 2009 this just told me what i already know. useful. not.
NoLoveNoLife - April 19, 2009 This may help some people, but not those who are already lost in the fog and are seriously considering suicide or have attempted suicide, it just piles on top of the existing guilt.
Those who have attempted suicide have thought of the effects their death will have on those around them.
ella1 - April 1, 2009 feel worse actually as someone who is suicidal already feels guillty enough about the prospect of leaving ones around them. i agree it willl help some, but not for me
fallen star - November 9, 2008 to be honest this article had me in tears, do you honestly people don't think about the effect it would have on their and family.. And that we don't think about the consequences, coz i do everyday... they make me hate and hurt myself even more.. but i see your point, i know you were trying to reach and saves people live.. i admire you for that
Eeyore - October 31, 2008 This article make me realize that it's not worth killing myself over.Thank you so very much.
LAWRA - August 28, 2008 Mmmm.. I have to say, I feel much worse now after I've read this. I thought it would help.
my_lovely_scars - June 30, 2008 actually i found it really helpful. i was seriously contemplating suicide tonight but since reading this, im actually thinking rationally about it. thanks
3 inches from the edge - June 7, 2008 "YOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AT LIFE, IF YOU DECIDE TO KILL YOURSELF THERE IS NO COMING BACK"
This line made me feel much worse ...
I don'yt like this aricle id...I agree with
Damaged_Gracie - May 29, 2008 i think this article helps alot. ive been feeling suicdal latley and this would definat;ey ma me reconsider it.
Belle. - April 14, 2008 haha
nglasgow3 - April 14, 2008 way to lay on the guilt trip for those who do feel suicidal. shit. this article would make them feel 10 times worse.
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Neko - August 10, 2013 This article is very intimidating... I suppose a lot of it is true in some sense, and it will be helpful to some people, but I feel like I was just yelled at by a teacher. No I DON'T want to inflict guilt or sadness on anybody!
SophiaBlue647 - August 3, 2012 This is tough. But inspiring...in a way.
beautydylan - June 21, 2012 Thanks now I'm triggered, maybe it shouldv'e had a trigger warning ...
xxbellxx - May 14, 2012 Suicide is not the easy way out and in no way selfish, it is a last attempt at peace and unless you've personally been suicidal and have been so depressed youve wanted to or actually tried to kill yourself you shouldn't talk about because you know nothing. Have you had constant voices in your head telling you that you don't even deserve to live and have been so numb and empty you'll do anything to make it go away because you've had no escape so you decide to sacrifice your life for peace. Have you spent every night crying yourself to sleep and dreaming if dying because it's your only comfort, if you don't know what that feels like don't give advice on it. I've been suicidal for years and I know that it is not the easy way out and our aim isn't to make everyone around us sad but to try to kill the monster on the inside.
imapwnu - January 15, 2012 What a joke
xx_hope_xx - September 20, 2011 This is kind of terrible. I mean in a way it’s helpful, but some of it’s a bit too harsh. This could actually trigger people.
imnoprincessofpain - September 5, 2011 This is actually MUCH more triggering and insulting to a suicidal person. Placing the blame on someone feeling suicidal only makes the person feel worse about him or herself which will increase the depression. These were good points, but they were much too harsh.
joejoe - May 6, 2011 insulting, but true. maybe you should've rewrote it.
hated91 - April 4, 2011 made me feel way worse.... thanks a million
magickit - January 31, 2011 that article is just patronising
laurenlovesdecember - January 4, 2011 yeah, made me feel WORSE. it is insulting, and some parts seem just plain innapropriate.
xXmeeversXx - December 28, 2010 this is fucking insulting. I just rejoined this website and now I'm leaving.
In_The_Darkness - August 25, 2010 "Also think of who's going to have to clean your brains off the ceiling, or your blood out of the bath tub. Think of how traumatizing it would be for everyone that cared."....nice. Just to let you know, the forensic team or the police would do it. Especially when your plan isnt even in your house.
Rosemary_8029 - June 21, 2010 makes u think a bit!
Needtobesaved - June 12, 2010 For some reason this made me angry
instead of making me feel better.
its a little mean, the way these things are said
EpicFailGirl - April 17, 2010 Once I tried to kill myself and nobody even noticed. So the next 5 years weren't of that worry, there were of noone caring all over again. But great articel.
psychodarko - March 8, 2010 i like in your face articles like this that just lay it out. wish i read this a couple of years ago. might at least have made me continue to re-consider options but if it happens again ill be sure to re-read this 1st much love xxx
Doikers - January 13, 2010 Food for thought .
air35 - June 5, 2009 this is really good
starlight_enigma - May 5, 2009 To the people who said and will say that this article is too late to help:
You came looking...so it can't be too late.
And it's nice to see an article that explains the facts strongly. Strong love.
labyrinthine_ - April 11, 2009 thank you.
VickyBroken - December 17, 2008 thats really good - but I am still having these thoughts. I am sick and tired of stuff. I don't know what to believe or do anymore.
fallen star - November 9, 2008 i'm too far gone to be helped, but it was a really touching and deep article, i admire your courage to open up your heart like that...
loweze - September 18, 2008 i'm really sorry to say that i read that and still feel the same. i've read so many things like that because i've had so many thoughts and now they're seeming to not have any affect anymore...
Crystal_Heart - September 16, 2008 wow thank you for saying "it takes guts to face your problems, courage you may have forgotten you have." (sry I can't quote the article correctly from my phone). anyway this sentence helped me so much just now! I wrote it down so I can remember it!! thank you!
Autumn_Ember - August 11, 2008 Also think of who's going to have to clean your brains off the ceiling, or your blood out of the bath tub. Think of how traumatizing it would be for everyone that cared.
tickety_tick_tock - July 31, 2008 the end is so final, your a long time dead
*rainbow* - June 11, 2008 a good article
ButterflyAus - June 9, 2008 Made me think - thank you.
Montana - April 12, 2008 Wow, thats profound.
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i fail at it but ill carry on 
tbh as i read this all i thought about was now im suicidal i obv don't care bout how it will effect the others n my life i just wanna end my misery and if suicide is a selfish act then u have to come to terms with someone who is suicidal will be selfish so y would this article work?
See I agree with Facet, it sounds like the writer of this article is suffering because someone they knew comitted suicide...so to state that the people who are suicidal are selfish is just that, their own opinion.
Yes, it will affect other people around you. It's just like when someone moves away...but that person can still contact them and talk to them...even when a person is dead you can still contact them and talk to them - you may not get an answer back but it might help you.
My mother committed suicide when I was 12 years thus ending any hope I had of being reunited with her when I turned 18 because, yes I was adopted...at age 5 and hadn't seen her since...now I will never be able to get a picture of her and me together my last picture of her and me was when I was 5 years old.
Being in the military, I found myself more alone then I initially had thought myself to be and was very suicidal but I lacked the guts...at that time I KNOW no one would have been sad or depressed over my death. My adopted parents would have thrown a party saying, "yay, the she-devil satan spawned is finally dead!" and friends i had known but never really stayed in contact with would have been sad but moved on...so don't sit there and preach about how selfish it is.
Obviously something is wrong and one thinks nothing can be changed or helped plus I'd rather spend an enternity with my mother in the afterlife then another day in this world all alone.
I really dislike when people say it's selfish for those suffering with a chronic mental illness to take their own lie (and yes, I have had friends commit suicide, but I didn't hold it against them). If it's something like situational anxiety or depression, sure, the person might be able to get through it. But when it's chronic, just like a physical illness, it's selfish of the other people to expect the individual to keep on being utterly miserable jsut so they don't have to deal with their death. The "selfishness"doesn't belong solely to the suicidal person.
This just makes me feel a lot worse. It makes feel bad because I'm selfish to try and take my life. I have survived three suicide attempts but I never thought of the consequences... now I do. Thank you
This is right, my cousin killed himself and he's not the first in my family either. Slowly but surely my family is falling to pieces, its killing each and every one of us insde. There wil always be someone who'll miss you.
this is all true. a friend of mine committed suicide just this passed october.
I already know all this...but it just makes me even more suicidal for being so selfish.
this made me cry -which isnt particularly hard these days.
i guess i never thought of so many people like that.
thanks
thankyou
wow that was something! it helped me lots,thank you =)
Thanks for posting, and this has saved my life several times.
This has saved my life so many times. And a part of me hates that.
i told this 2 my friend who would think adout suicide she cryed and told me she wouldnt die of suicide that she loved me 2 much
Thank you someone one chat sent it to me and this help so much. im the kind of person who will never judge you i look at both veiw and will always under stand. i understand the people that say noone will miss you and the hurt will only last a fration of how much hurt you have to feel and i agree with every oppionion, but do you realy want to cauz that person hurt even just the little hurt it will cauz them???? I think thats the real question how about you?
this made me cry -which isnt particularly hard these days. but really epople would be better off withoit me. im suree of it
I go through phases of thinking that suicide is just my own escapism but when I'm in a depression, it seems the only way out, as if nobody cares. Maybe that's just the illness. I talk to people and don't get help. Suicide seems so logical at times. Makes me feel so guilty to think of the impact on others. Maybe that's the point - if I feel condemned enough I won't kill myself? If I honestly thought that someone cared then I wouldn't end my life but there seems more to suicide than that. People that care still can't take away my pain.
This has saved my life so many times. i printed this page out and stuck it in my binder by my bed. Every time i feel suicidal, i read this. And then i realize that i love my friends too much that i could never do that to them. Thank you!
This is so powerful..
ok, for people who are saying that people will move on after someone they knew someone who comittied suicide, im not saying your wrong but its deffinatley not true in my case. my cousin who i barely knew comitted suicide and i still havent moved on. im asking myself all the time so many questions that will never be answered. and the world wouldnt be better if you did commit suicide. It would just hurt it more. =/
I disagree. It may hurt the people close to me, but they will move on. My suffering is forever...their's would be temporary
thank you for adding this!!
I have survived two suicides and understand what you mean. However, the SOM means that you (ie the suicidal person) BELIEVE that the world will be better without you. Reading something like this when suicidal can and for me has made that more certain. You are right that it will hurt people, but they will move on AND THEY WILL BE BETTER OFF.
that was amazing.
it was so true.
i guess i never thought of so many people like that.
thankyou.
Thanks you. this has saved me so many times, times when im feeling very low i look at this and it makes me think.... Thanks again!
And think of the mess.
i guess most people just dont think
This might work for someone who still haven't thought about this, but it certainly didn't work for me in any way. There's more to life than what people think and feel about you.
I feel so Moved by this. it helped me move on.
I trully agree with this article. My grandpa died by suicide. He was depressed and lost his wife 3yrs ago. Many questions come across one mind. Why did someone do it. Why didn't they talk to someone.
wow! so powerful.
thank you