Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - Question

Storme · 03-12-2008, 03:22 AM

If someone goes out wanting to be raped, is it still considered rape?

troubleshooter · 03-12-2008, 03:26 AM

Well, can you define "go out wanting to be raped" please? I'm not sure I really understand what you mean.

Storme · 03-12-2008, 03:34 AM

don't know how to without going into loads of detail and no one needs to listen to any of my dribble! but imagine [note, my head is all over the place] someone who is finding things from their past really hard to deal with and mentally/emotionally feels like they're being raped everyday can't take it anymore and wants to feel it physically goes out and lands them in a situation where they'll end up having sex. [knowing what they're doing] but they don't actually want sex and when they say that the person continues all the same. would it be considered rape when the person knew what they were doing? sorry if that made no sense. my heads all mushed.

Aidee · 03-12-2008, 03:36 AM

From a legal stand point probably not, but emotionally that sounds like quite a mess. Are you talking about yourself or someone else in this situation?

troubleshooter · 03-12-2008, 03:44 AM

Yes honey I think that counts as rape but as Aidey said hard to prove in a court room. Emotionally though you def need the help and support. And we're willing to listen to all you have to say. *hugs* Want to tell us more? And have you sought out help for any of this?

Storme · 03-12-2008, 03:48 AM

Thank you for your replies.

Yeah. I wouldn't even think about the legal side to be honest. So saying that I don't even know why i wanted to ask so much. i think somehow knowing what it is would some how help sort things in my head? I don't know. I just wish something would.

And yeah Aidey, i was talking about me. argh, i haven't had any proper help, as in from anyone else. I've thought about it but never done anything about it. i've just tried helping myself but the way i've been trying really hasn't helped. i just can't stop doing things to 'help' myself that only end up making things seem 'worse'. Urgh, I'm just a slag.

Sorry. Pathetic moaning or what?!

troubleshooter · 03-12-2008, 04:38 AM

You're not pathetic or a slag honey, you've been through a lot and sometiems when that happens we make bad choices. *hugs* You're not moaning either, you need to talk about this and seek help. It's ok to talk about it and get help, that's the only way you'll start to feel better honey.

Anji · 11-12-2008, 02:15 AM

I think this is a really difficult subject. Very difficult for someone to talk about. As if there aren't enough issues surrounding guilt.

I don't think it's crazy at all. Apparently this happens with abuse victims, their minds keep pushing them to recreate the abuse in the present. I don't entirely understand why, but I do hear you, I know where you're coming from.

starshine · 17-12-2008, 03:19 PM

well, i hate to be a downer, and im supportive all the way.....but.....i cant see it as rape because....you knew what you were doing and you knew the outcome. i just think you would have the control which sort of makes it a choice....an unhealthy one and i know its hard and i hope you find help but i had to say somthing.

Sorry, i hope i haven't made it worse.