I'm doing sociology in school and were doing the natre nurture debate...
I also found out recently that my uncle used to self harm. and a friend of mine who also self harms and has an ED also found out that her auntie self harmed and had an ED aswell...
and i was wondering what people thought about whether its just a coincidence or that somehow being 'incapable' of expessing your feeling 'healthily' could run in genes which leads people to express this through self harm??
(sorry if this doesnt make sense or i have described things wrong im really bad with words.)
My parents are quite strict which drives me soo crazy and i have trouble knowing how i feel so thats why i self harm?
dunno tbh buh ino my *real* mum was a drug addict but ive onli tried drugs once sooo ?
sorry that dosent make sence lol
I don't really know with me I think it could be both, I have a big history of mental health, addictions and eating disorders in my family. I think I was doomed from the start my parents met in a psych hospital and got married 2 weeks later, how did they think their kids would turn out?
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Mental heath problems run down the female line in my family, but I don't think they self harmed, as in cutting, thay were all drinkers, I am a drinker and a cutter.
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Hum, I'm not quite sure what I believe really.
As far as I'm aware the is no history of self-injury in my family.
However my mum did suffer with post-natal depression after giving birth to my eldest sister, but i can see how that can relate to my ED, SI etc.
Although, I do know of friends who are depressed, SI have and ED and it does follow in their family...
Who knows really?
I wish I'd done sociolgy, just to be slightly off topic..
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i didnt know my dad a big pile as he left when i was 2 and he started up his own family... only now that he's getting divorced from that wife am i starting a relationship with him and how shocked was i 2 find out he was a self harmer when he was younger... :O
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Definitely both. My parents are both addicts (alcoholics) and from my own experience of having a mental illness, I'd definitely say that my mother has one too.
So I'm not completely surprised by my own problems with addiction and the like...even if they aren't the same type as my parents. Add the fact that I never had anyone to talk to about my problems growing up...
Personally for me, I think self harm was nature. Because I had never heard of it, it was something I discovered for myself.
However there is a long family history of mental illness and I know my little sister went through a period of cutting too.
I guess growing up with two mentally ill parents probably didn't help my emotional health, but the act of self harm itself was in no way a learned response.
Personally for me, I think self harm was nature. Because I had never heard of it, it was something I discovered for myself.
However there is a long family history of mental illness
This is pretty much what I was going to say. I'm pretty sure my uncle (who is bipolar) has self harmed, but I don't know for sure. But then my mum has SAD, my dad's got depression and his dad's an alcoholic, so it wasn't really a huge surprise when I came out with mental difficulties.
But yeah, for me, I didn't know what it was, it was a weird kind of instinct.
Wake me up before I change again
Remind me the story that I won't get insane
Tell me why it's always the same
Explain me the reason why I'm so much in pain.
Personally for me it is how i think it is how i have been brought up.
My parents drove me to the way i am now. I hate them for that.
In my family my auntie is a drug addict but thats it.
Oh and my mums a bit of a depressive.
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