Ok I have been thinking about telling my mum about the self harm and stuff, but i was wondering how everyone elses parents found out, whether you told them or they discovered it and their reactions to it. Also if you did tell them how did you tell them, or did you just blurt it out one day. Any feedback would be good whether reactions good or bad.
ummm well my parents kind of found out because i had a painc attack one day && they saw at the hospital..
then i kind of just blurted it out.
It wasnt pretty. =(
She won't make a sound
Alone in this fight with herself and the fears whispering if she stands she'll fall down
She wants to be found
The only way out is through everything she's running from wants to give up and lie down.
my school told them,
a techer saw them when i fainted
i would have preffered to tell them myself, at first they were shocked but were more understanding then angry.
After all this has passed, i still will remain
After i've cried my last, there'll be beauty from pain
I told my parents this week, actually. I sent my mom a message on myspace about it. She woke me up that morning and called off work and called my dad home from work and made me go to the dr's office. The worst part of all of it was the fact that my mom cried, a lot. My dad cried some too. Everything is relatively okay now tho, they are being supportive and such.
My mom found out because there was a drop of blood on my toe. She was angry at first, but then came around. My dad and sister still don't know and I don't plan on them knowing, at least not for a long time. But other people have asked about scars and I just told them.
I told my mum, she was, and is very supportive, she cried, and asked if I ever wanted to kill myself, I told her I often get urges, but was in no real danger. She even got me first aid stuff. (She is a nurse in a mental hospital.)
Her occupation most likely what leads to her acceptance of it, It's still hard for her obviously. But, I was so scared. And, she asked to see my scars, and I did.
That's all really. I hope you can tell her, it may be the best thing to happen. Goodluck!
On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.
a doctor told them. they were ok. my mum tried to talk about it but i batted her out. i didn't notice their reaction, i was too busy being angry that the doc had told them :-S
i haven't told my parents yet, but i have told people before. I told my sister one night when she was asking my why i was so shut off from everyone and she cried a lot, but then she refused to acknowledge it because she thought i quit. Just make sure they know how you want them to treat you- because they probably won't know how to act, so they might ignore it, which is really annoying, but you also probably don't want them to ask you all these questions.
I told my best friend through an e-mail and she ignored it and pretended it never happened. but writing a letter is always good because you can say everything you want to say without them interrupting you.
Let me know if you need to talk ever, and good luck!
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I went swimming because it was so hot and my mom saw my arm. I tried to lie my way out of it but it didn't work. My mom was very calm and told me not to do it anymore. I told her I wouldn't. I lied. That was 9 years ago. Maybe things would have gone better if I had told her on my terms. Don't let any of these posts discourage you. My mom probably could have been great help to me if I had let her but unfortunately I shut her out of my emotional side.
my stepdad likes to search my body and he lifted up my sleeve and mmy shirt and saw the scars. then he said if i didn't do it again then he wouldn't tell my mom. but i did, so he told. my mom is a counsellor and was pretty crap at dealing with it. she said she wasn't angry, but i don't 'get' my mom and she always presumes she knows when or why i do it. and it is SO annoying, mainly because she ISN'T right.
my dad was ok, but wanted to hide the knives at his flat. he tried to talk to it, but my dad doesn't really know how to talk, so we just left it. now he likes to ignore me, so it's all good. hmmmmmmmmmm
My mum just kind of guessed after she saw some blood on my pillow :\ and the fact that I had been hiding my arms and she just came into my room and asked me... was horrible :( Then she made me a doctors appointment but I refused to go :\
22nd November 2018
"Don't suffer in your silence. Know you are never alone."
I've been thinking about talking to my mum about it as well, no one in my family knows as yet although some of my friends know. I don't know how I'm going to tell her because I'm scared of how she will react, am beginning to think I won't tell her till I've stopped or until I'm not living at home anymore.
my parents didnt know from my age of 5-21/22. i told my mom over the phone when i had reached my serious breaking point and wanted to drop out of college come home and sort myself out some.
i started off by telling her i had something to tell her, but she had to promise not to blame herself, get mad at me, or disown me! she kind of panicked then! but she was ok, she just got really worried about me. she told my dad, and my dad wont talk about it, he'll talk about depression and bipolarness but not the self harm! i dont mind that!
good luck hun, i think they usually react better then you expect because you obviously expect the very worse!
I just cut really badly one day, calmly sat both of my parents down in the living room and told them I needed to go to hospital, and they asked me why. I said that I'd cut myself by accident.
It was as simple as that. They didn't say anything while I was at hospital getting the cut looked at. I just remember my dad's face when the doctor asked me how it happened, and I said, 'Well, it wasn't an accident. I did it with a razor blade.'
My dad was so shocked that he couldn't say anything. Thankfully he didn't yell at me in hospital, when we got home they both asked me why I'd done it in the first place and why I didn't feel able to come to them about it earlier.
"How can I be a gynecologist? I can barely look a woman in the eye!"
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