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Old 08-06-2007, 07:19 PM   #1
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Telling Parents - Help Please?

I think it's time I told my parents, but am unsure what to tell them. I have a few questions about this:
- I got advised on another forum (it's a support one for teenagers but have a self harm support thread) just to tell my parents that I suffer from depression and to tell them at a later date that I self harm - is this really a good idea?
- Before the upgrade, there was a letter that someone wrote to their parents about their self harm. Does anyone have a copy of this please?

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Old 08-06-2007, 07:26 PM   #2
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Sorry I cant really help on this one. But you know that you can still a access the old site dont you. Maybe you could find the letter on there.

Good luck with telling them!!




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Old 08-06-2007, 07:30 PM   #3
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Thanks. I've got the links for the old site in an email but they won't work. :(

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Old 08-06-2007, 07:47 PM   #4
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i brought my mum to my coucilling session to tell her.... she ne i had depression already. it just nice with some one there

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Old 08-06-2007, 09:33 PM   #5
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i didnt actually tell my mum, but she just found out..

but one thing, if you do write a letter, please just stress to her that nothing that you are doing is down to her, because she is bound to feel guilty (my mum did anyway, and in a way it is understandable)

and also try to explain to her as best you can why you are doing it...
it might feel like she doesn't understand at first, and she might be angry/upset..but she will start to deal with it in a bit..

good luck! <3

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Old 08-06-2007, 09:42 PM   #6
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I sent my mom to this link http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
this site has a bunch of links on it that are very good at explaining self injury..I know it's hard to actually explain it, I've been there, so this made it a little easier. Hope that helps.



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Old 08-06-2007, 09:58 PM   #7
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my mum found out through my school that somthing else was goin on and then it just came out with it that i self harmed as they wanted to know what was goin on.
i now can not keep anything to myself anymore. but hey at least they know.
just tell them how u can, and how u feel best. no one can tell u te best way to tell them as every one reacts diffrently to things



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Old 08-06-2007, 10:09 PM   #8
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remember, if she becomes angry, it stems from fear and not understanding.



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Old 08-06-2007, 10:34 PM   #9
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Good luck hun, hope it goes well and hope uyou feel better when she n
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Old 09-06-2007, 01:06 AM   #10
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Hun, Good Luck. Great job for the courage! I have a note that I wrote for my parents that I haven't given them. If you would like it for a reference, PM me and I'll give it to ya! GOOD LUCK!!!!

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Old 09-06-2007, 05:34 PM   #11
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Kudos to you for deciding to tell your parents, that's a hard decision to make. Maybe you could write your own letter, explaining why it was so hard for you to make the decision to tell them, some of the basic information on self-injury, and explain it all in your own words.

Do you have a counselor who knows you self-injure? Maybe a school counselor? It may be easier on your parents and you if you get them in with a meeting with yourself and your counselor and give them the letter there. In that way, you'd have a third party to not only counsel the initial reaction, but someone there to keep on topic and be there to support you regardless.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

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Old 09-06-2007, 07:07 PM   #12
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Jayda - I don't have a counseller yet.

My problem is, I know what I need to say but just can't put it into words - the last time I did this, it sounded (to me, anyway) like I was making out it to be my friend's fault when it wasn't...

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Old 09-06-2007, 07:23 PM   #13
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I know,actually putting into words what you're feeling or what you're thinking is a hard thing to do. Maybe if you have a friend or something who knows you SI, perhaps they could help you put it together? If not, you can always post it on here and run it by everyone here?




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Old 09-06-2007, 07:36 PM   #14
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I was going to ask a friend of mine to do that for me, but I thought it might be a bit rude to ask for something like that.

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Old 09-06-2007, 08:40 PM   #15
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I basically need to say the following:
- that I self injure, that I'm not entirely sure why I do it (but do it alot after arguing with someone - as this is my way of dealing with my problems) and that this isn't their fault
- I want help, but haven't asked for it yet. However, I do talk to someone (not on a SI/SH board) who has been able to give me some good advice
- that I've decided that I need to take a break and am planning on not going to college/work after the summer, because now it is far too stressful and this year has been far too much for me

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