Any advice welcomed *sexually graphic*

[echo_scream]

Hi there only recently returned and wow what an improvement well at least noone borrowed my screen name.I can also proclaim that im holding strong at 3months free from Si.

2months ago i met and really old school friend and we got chatting and had a great time out and about. Now i thought a the time she was single so i decided to try my luck.All seemed well till i was told she already had a other half even if he did treat her shockingly (they hadnt met in 7weeks!).
About a month ago she dumped him for good and a week later we started dating.Last wednesday things got a little more physical than i thought they would and we ended up topless and rolling all over the place , then yesterday she confessed to being a virgin! things went further and later on we ended up sprawled across my bed wearing only panties and boxers. however its was, that 'time of the month' so i didnt really believe it'd go anywhere, still one thing leads to another and after using my thigh as a substitute i tried my fingers though only my index would fit......now i ended up covered in a fine/diluted layer of blood on my hand, though she seemed perfectly happy and quite breathless.

Now a few more lil facts;
*Im not a virgin and have never been with a virgin.
*Shes very quite and can be fairly shy.
*We've only been together as such for a month.
*Shes seen my scars and accepts them (i can finally breath easy)
*Im really quite worried about hurting her despite her eagerness that i wont.
*I usually tease for about an hour 30mins so shall we say theres a fair bit of damp down there.

So armed with these facts can you very wise forum people give me some advice on any of the following;

)Will i cause harm if we go through with this?
)Did i break the hymen with my fingers?
)Any ideas on how to relax her down there?
)Any thoughts on how i can stop worrying about all this?


As much as i do care for her i dont want to rush this (its my longest relationship ).

[Accidentally Abstract]

You won't cause harm to her, if you're both ready it should be fine (unless you're extroadinarily large down there *giggles*)... the most that should happen is you'll break the hymen - which is a perfectly natural thing to happen anyway.

I doubt you broke the hymen with your fingers, that'd be quite difficult, but it's a possibility.

If she's not relaxed enough, chances are she's tense and scared. You just need to assure her that it's all okay, though obviously she could just be really scared because it'd be her first time. After that barrier's crossed, it might be easier.

I don't know how you can stop worrying.. Talk to her about it? Uhm.. Just try and relax and stay calm about it all.

Take care and good luck with the relationship and that.

x

[cosmic_katie]

The blood would of been from her period rather than the hymen breaking. I think basically the same as Accidentally Abstract. Just try and take things slowly and make sure she's ready.

[echo_scream]

@ Accidentally Abstract;
Well i wouldnt consider myself overally large the simple fact that my two fingers wouldn't.......well my *ahem* is just over 2" wide at the top and just over 8 long....just a little bit bigger than my finger hence my worrying (though i do procrastinate quite a bit).

Well i shall take heed and we'll discuss it more when we next meet up thanks alot to both of you helped settle some of the anxiety.Though in any case slow and steady and making sure shes in the mood so to speak seem to be the best course of action.

Thanks

[Mandimoo]

the best relaxer is an orgasm lol! it will also 'prepare' her for more action so to speak. lol. my hubby is slightly too large for me and i always need to have orgasmed and use lube before im ready for him.

some people think it is best to slowly stretch before breaking the hymen (with fingers) and others think it's best to get it over with as it feels more intense. ask her how she wants it done and then go with that. *cuddles* mand x