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Old 12-12-2011, 04:29 AM   #1
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Help! I Have a Crush on Someone *kind of adult but not really*

Help!

I have a crush on this guy and I have no idea what to do. I haven't dated since I was a teenager and have only had one serious relationship. I haven't even spoken to a male in *that* way for 3 years.

I have no idea how to even try to start things with this person! I don't know him socially, ie. he's not a friend of a friend or anything so opportunities to meet "casually" are non-existent.

Arghhh what do I do?? I feel like a teenager!



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Old 12-12-2011, 08:06 AM   #2
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How do you know him? Maybe getting to know him socially could be the first step.




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Old 12-12-2011, 09:34 AM   #3
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Yup, I'm with Sefka on this one. Maybe hang out where he hangs out?



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Old 12-12-2011, 10:16 AM   #4
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He works in a shop. Lol. Kind of hopeless.



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Old 12-12-2011, 10:18 AM   #5
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I don't even know how old he is or anything! He might be younger than me (not that that really matters) or, horror of horrors, have a girlfriend, or be gay. That happens to me a lot. My last love interest spent all his time agonising to me about how to come out to his parents. Tragic.



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Old 12-12-2011, 10:32 AM   #6
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Send him an xmas card saying you couldn't wait til valentine's, sign it as a secret admirer.... then go shopping lots! If he comes up and says he's taken or gay just pretend you didn't sen d it



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Old 12-12-2011, 10:26 PM   #7
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do you go into the shop lots?

maybe you could build up conversation over a period of time, start off general and build up.

thats what id do.



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Old 12-12-2011, 10:33 PM   #8
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Mand I could never do that - I'm too shy!

I don't go in a hell of a lot, just a few times lately, it's a bit of a faff to get to but I could I suppose. But what would I say?? I can't just start buying loads of stuff lol. Arghh I feel so angsty. Woe is me!



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Old 12-12-2011, 10:38 PM   #9
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I say just go up to him and ask he if wants to grab coffee after work.

If he says no, just don't shop there anymore.




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Old 12-12-2011, 11:16 PM   #10
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what kind of shop is it?

(sounds like a random question, but may be relevant)



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Old 13-12-2011, 09:57 PM   #11
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It's a camera shop.

I'm too shy to put myself forward. And I don't know how to change that.



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Old 13-12-2011, 10:25 PM   #12
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Camera shop's better than a supermarket or sth. You've got the perfect conversation topic starter. Go in and ask him something about cameras - advice about lenses or something (I know nothing about cameras.)




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Old 14-12-2011, 11:20 AM   #13
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Get something camera-y ask him to add you on fb to check out the results?



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Old 15-12-2011, 05:32 AM   #14
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Arghh I don't know! Maybe next year.... I can't really face the shops at the mo with all the Xmas crowds.



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Old 15-12-2011, 02:56 PM   #15
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Post it with a stamp - S..W.a.L.K. it lol



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Old 21-12-2011, 02:03 AM   #16
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Feeling good today. Went back to the shop (legitimately, with someone else) and he remembered me!



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