woke up last night and my aunts husband had his hands down my pants. RAGING. was basic sexual assault. i only didnt scream because his son,AWAKE, was in the room and my aunt sleeping on the couch. i told my parents (livin wi them at the moment) and they are being ridiculously calm. turns out he did it to someone else years ago and i am just thinking... i dunno, i couldn't be so calm if it happened to someone i love. seems like they don't want me to say anything but can i keep this quiet???
I can't believe your parents are eing so calm about this!! But maybe they are just trying to think through what to do. Do you think you can keep it quiet? Because if he has done it before, I don't think you should. But it is YOUR decision. Have you showered or anything since he did it? Because if you're wanting to report it, don't have a shower until you have reported it.
I'm so so sorry this has happened hun. I'm here if you need to rant or anything.
"Keep your heart open to dreams. For as long as there's a dream, there is hope, and as long as there is hope, there is joy in living."
Thanks Whispered Secret. I told my auntie (his wife). n He has done similar things to another auntie- when she was 19 and sleeping- and to a cousin. Thought she needed to know. She said he (lying!) said he must have thought I was her. He has also made a pass at my ex-gf! And yet everyone is acting so calm- they don't want to split the family. and the more I consider this the angrier I feel. We are harboring a serial abuser in our family- for years!- for the sake of a quiet life. This is wrong isn't it? I'm not overreacting?
This is wrong, in my opinion, yes. I think in many ways they are scared by the situation and not sure how to deal with it, and their way of dealing with it is to brush it under the carpet. But you aren't overeacting. What happens now is up to you - whether you want to report it or not. But if it was me, I would like to think that I'd report it.
"Keep your heart open to dreams. For as long as there's a dream, there is hope, and as long as there is hope, there is joy in living."
I am so sorry that happened to you! I agree with Grace...you are not overeacting! I would tell someone who would listen and help...obviously the adult around you aren't helping or listening! Once again I am soooo sorry this happened to you! (((HUGS)))
I agree with what others have already said, you are not over-reacting, and what has happened is wrong. That, and the reaction you have received from those around you is also wrong. Have they offered you any support at all, or just told you to keep quiet?
I hope you feel able to report this.
Roiben x
If the Human brain were so simple that we could understand it, we would be so simple that we wouldn't.
I told everyone. I was furious. First I had been a bit numb. I don't feel guilt, shame, or blame in this. I feel violated and I am ****ing furious. I refuse to see that man again and now they are out of shock, the rest of the family agrees. As for my aunt (his wife) I will have to see but Id like to think she will make the right choice. I don't want to lose her to that bastard.
I actually think I have handled this well. I am raging but think I'm fine. Although it has shaken up some weird memories & stuff.
Please make sure that you have your support network around you (family/doctors/cpn etc) as this will and has shaken you up, and I think you need some support for you to get through all this.
I'm glad the family are coming round to your way of thinking now that the shock has died down.
Take care of yourself, I'm only a PM away.
"Keep your heart open to dreams. For as long as there's a dream, there is hope, and as long as there is hope, there is joy in living."
What he did was horrible and should not be tolerated. You have handled this incredibly well and I hope your family can support you on this. It's good your family are finaly realising how serious this is, but do you have a friend you can talk to about it, who can give you that extra bit of support?
This man is disgusting and you did not deserve to be treated like this. I hope you can stay strong and seek support to get through this difficult time.
Weirdly, I feel OK. Angry, so angry- but I don't have any bad feelings toward myself for what he did. I was asleep, for god's sake. Am finding out more and more things about him, and the more I learn the more I am shocked he has been tolerated this long. He is disgusting. x
