I don't know how things got so complicated so quickly
I became best friends with this couple a yr ago and and started having an afair with theguy about 10 weeks later I have now moved in with them and it is just so hard not to say or do anything in front of his wife. I love him and he loves me Im 19 and he is 38 so there is also a big age gap and he has 3kids with one been older then me.
I don't what to do ATM either I can't move out as there's no where to go and I'm not leaving him either I love him way to much
Has any one got any idea on what I can do cause idont I've been free from Sh for 2 yrs now and since moving in I've had a hard time stoping my self from down that path again
Look, i don't mean to sound all pissy or anything but maybe this will seem a bit harsh.
My advice is, get out. He won't leave his wife for you. Trust me on this. Right now he's comfortable because he has two women to choose from and he's highly unlikely to give up on either one of you for the other.
I read that you love him. And i don't doubt that you do. But he won't choose you over his wife. And to be honest, you deserve better than this. You deserve to find a man who'll respect you and honour you and not **** you over like this guy is doing.
This will never end well. Get out of there as soon as you can because right now you're just being used. Trust me.
Look, i don't mean to sound all pissy or anything but maybe this will seem a bit harsh.
My advice is, get out. He won't leave his wife for you. Trust me on this. Right now he's comfortable because he has two women to choose from and he's highly unlikely to give up on either one of you for the other.
I read that you love him. And i don't doubt that you do. But he won't choose you over his wife. And to be honest, you deserve better than this. You deserve to find a man who'll respect you and honour you and not **** you over like this guy is doing.
This will never end well. Get out of there as soon as you can because right now you're just being used. Trust me.
you're in a dangerous place right now, find somewhere to live before the wife finds out you're having an affair (it will be hard to hide living under the same roof) and throws you and possibly him out with no warning.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
My advice is, get out. He won't leave his wife for you. Trust me on this. Right now he's comfortable because he has two women to choose from and he's highly unlikely to give up on either one of you for the other.
I read that you love him. And i don't doubt that you do. But he won't choose you over his wife. And to be honest, you deserve better than this. You deserve to find a man who'll respect you and honour you and not **** you over like this guy is doing.
This will never end well. Get out of there as soon as you can because right now you're just being used. Trust me.
The thing is I can't get out one because I am in a bdsm relationship ( non sexual) with both of them I am their submissive wouldn't give either of them up as love them both just love him more which is where it gets complicated and 2 because of there kids are my god sons. I keep trying to talk to him but I start saying what I want to and change the subject or say another thing that's bothering me and lately it's just getting worse and my psyc wont give me meds to help with the depression he reckons that my ADHD meds should help with it and they aren't and they have stopes helping with my ADHD as well
you *can* get out, they do not own you - no matter what role-playing you get up to, get up and walk out, or call 911 and tell them you are being held hostage.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
it is an extreme form of role play and if you think they really own you then you're delusional on top, i'm sorry but slavery was abolished years ago - it is against the law, if you feel you cannot get out, dial 911 like i said, they'll get you out.
Tell me if I'm being thick but I thought BDSM was sexual, not non sexual?
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It can be either. A lot of play dungeons (where people interested in the lifestyle meet) are non-sexual-contact. I'm not an expert on the subject but the situation described here doesn't sound legit..
It can be either. A lot of play dungeons (where people interested in the lifestyle meet) are non-sexual-contact. I'm not an expert on the subject but the situation described here doesn't sound legit..
Thanks for clearing that one up :) Learn something new every day :)
even if its non-sexual either party must be free to leave at any time they choose - you cannot own, lock up or keep a person against their will - it is criminal but yeah been thinking troll for a while
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
even if its non-sexual either party must be free to leave at any time they choose - you cannot own, lock up or keep a person against their will - it is criminal but yeah been thinking troll for a while
Indeed. Even in the BDSM world relationships change and Doms/subs change at the will of the involved parties.
I concur troll. That or one very inexperienced, un-knowledgeable 'sub'. I seriously doubt the later.
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I'm not being held against my will but like I said in my 1st post I have no where else to go ATM mum and dad are now having to live with my grand parents ans my younger sister has moved in with the other grandparents ans there is no room for me as well that's y I had to move to my friends place and it's gone from me being happy here to me feeling unwanted and unsafe ( mentally). I no my mistress isn't doing to well ATM she's in the middle of a break down and can't see any one for another few weeks as well as sir hasnt been able to find s jib in the last few months so they are living off one wage which isn't enough.
