HR asking some ODD questions

[BunnyMaz]

As part of my employer's ongoing monitoring and assistance with my mental health situation, last week they referred me to an occupational health company who completed an assessment and sent them a report. I had some sick days this week related to my mental health issues, so yesterday when I came back in I had a meeting with HR and my manager to discuss both the sickness and the report. Work know about my SI so that was covered in the report.

Work ended up asking some really weir questions and it made me feel really triggered and unstable. I ended up falling off the SI wagon afterwards because of how it made me feel.

Work wanted to know;

1. Have I SI'd in the last few weeks (and they insisted on a "yes" or "no" - saying "a bit" wasn't adequate)
2. Have I done it much?
3. How many times? (When I said I hadn't been counting them, they then asked "but if you don't know how many times, how do you know you haven't done it much?")
4. How badly did I do it?
5. Was it the same way as last time - what form did the SI take?
6. Did I do it in the office?
7. When I had my last instance of sick leave, what caused it?
8. What made me feel anxious, why did I feel that way?
9. What did I do while off to try to make myself feel better?
10. Why do I feel triggered by X situation and Y scenario?

I just felt like these questions were really personal and I didn't really understand why this would be something they would need to know. The Occ Health people didn't ask anything like these questions.

Am I wrong to feel so triggered by this?

[Warrior_x]

Not sure what to say. Just leaving lots of hugs and love.

I don't think you were wrong to be triggered by it. I get triggered when people ask me too many questions about my SI. And I haven't done it in over 8 months.

Hope you are okay.

Feel free to PM me if you like.
xx

[Margo]

You need to go to citizens advice or some other advice agency about this. I do not feel what they are doing is right. they have a right to know if stuff at work is making you ill to cover their own backs. however they are asking questions only med profs who deal with you should ask.

take this to your doc and speak to him/her too. take action now and find out what your rights are and where you stand.

Do not tell them any more!

[Pomegranate]

I can kind of see why they might ask questions 6-10 but definitely not the first five. I would have been upset and triggered by it as well though. How are you feeling now? Have they at least come up with some alterations that might make work a little easier for you?

[xlaurenx]

I agree with Emma i can understand 6-10 but the first 5 seem very personal which i wouldn't answer its not right for them to ask them questions i dont think only med proffessionals should. I would feel triggered by it to hun or at the very least upset.

Hugs

Feel free to pm me :)

laurenxx

[startingagain]

If you aren't in a union, then join one. The whole point of OH is for them to look at the medical information and then provide recommendations for your employer. Just because they ask a question doesn't mean you have to answer. I'd take a union rep with you to any other meetings.

[BunnyMaz]

Thanks guys for replying. I was worried I was overreacting, but I'm glad you agree that the questions were too much.

[Merc]

As said, do not answer anymore of these questions and def. get some advice as to your rights.
You can refuse to answer any question you feel uncomfortable with.